| We've all had those moments where we were with | | | | hair and standing so closely, most likely at that point |
| someone we liked and somewhere on the back of | | | | she already wants to kiss you anyway. If she |
| our mind we kept wondering how do we kiss that | | | | withdraws or acts weirded out, relax for a bit and |
| person? Do we ask them? Do we just go for the | | | | continue building comfort with her. Resume normal |
| kiss? Do we wait? If so, how long? | | | | conversation and try again later. |
| These questions can be quite discouraging due to not | | | | For girls: Usually girls are viewed as the ones who are |
| knowing exactly what to do next to bring yourself | | | | kissed, rather than the ones that kiss. It's really a |
| closer to that special someone. | | | | matter of personal preference and personal set of |
| There are, however, a few key steps and signs that | | | | beliefs as to how you want to go about this. |
| we can watch out for and do to increase the | | | | Most guys are very shy about kissing a girl for the first |
| probability of bringing ourselves closer to that special | | | | time, so you might try to make him feel comfortable by |
| someone. | | | | accepting his touch or even initiating non-intrusive |
| For guys: When you're out with a girl on a date and | | | | touching yourself, such as holding his hand or hugging |
| you and her walking around or just talking, you have to | | | | him and being close to him. If he feels like you're |
| understand that you're the one who has to make a | | | | accepting him and enjoy his company and being close |
| move! Girls are told by society that they have to be | | | | to him, he'll most likely go for the kiss. |
| passive and receptive (not as much after shows such | | | | If you want to kiss him, it's going to be rather tricky, |
| as Sex and the City). Thus, she is expecting you to | | | | since some guys might feel you're too aggressive to |
| take charge in escalating the touching that will | | | | hang out with. If he's super shy, you can simply tell him |
| eventually lead to a kiss. | | | | you want to kiss him, and let him kiss you. This way |
| When you're out with her, be the first one to take her | | | | you preserve his male ego and still get kissed :) |
| hand! Taking her hand is the first step towards bringing | | | | For both: Kissing should be light and bring pleasure to |
| yourself closer to her. If she's comfortable, you can | | | | both partners. Don't rush too fast and start shoving |
| escalate non-intrusive touching a little later, such as | | | | your tongue down his or her throat. Just relax your |
| touching her shoulders or hugging her. As you progress | | | | tongue and softly touch your partner's lips and tongue. |
| doing this and watch her grow more and more | | | | Just barely touching, almost sliding. The kiss should feel |
| comfortable with your touch, you have much better | | | | light, yet passionate. As two of you get comfortable |
| chance of kissing her successfully, rather than just | | | | kissing, you can progress to more aggressive and |
| going for the kiss out of the blue. When you built this | | | | deep kind of kissing, such as French kissing. French |
| kind of touching comfort, get her and yourself into | | | | kissing is essentially the kind of kiss where there is lots |
| some sort location where two of you could either sit | | | | of tongue and sucking action. |
| or stand and talk comfortably. As two of you talk, | | | | Conclusion: Just let if flow and let it come to you |
| start stroking her hair softly and look into her eyes. If | | | | naturally. Build touch comfort over time and when the |
| you feel that she's comfortable with that, move in | | | | time is right, try to move closer to your partner so that |
| closer and closer. If she doesn't withdraw, go for the | | | | the kiss can naturally happen. Visit Kissing tips, advice |
| kiss, since if she's comfortable with you touching her | | | | for more information. |