| We've all had those moments where we were with | | | | she already wants to kiss you anyway. If she |
| someone we liked and somewhere on the back of | | | | withdraws or acts weirded out, relax for a bit and |
| our mind we kept wondering how do we kiss that | | | | continue building comfort with her. Resume normal |
| person? Do we ask them? Do we just go for the | | | | conversation and try again later. |
| kiss? Do we wait? If so, how long? | | | | For girls: |
| These questions can be quite discouraging due to not | | | | Usually girls are viewed as the ones who are kissed, |
| knowing exactly what to do next to bring yourself | | | | rather than the ones that kiss. It's really a matter of |
| closer to that special someone. | | | | personal preference and personal set of beliefs as to |
| There are, however, a few key steps and signs that | | | | how you want to go about this. |
| we can watch out for and do to increase the | | | | Most guys are very shy about kissing a girl for the first |
| probability of bringing ourselves closer to that special | | | | time, so you might try to make him feel comfortable by |
| someone. | | | | accepting his touch or even initiating non-intrusive |
| For guys: | | | | touching yourself, such as holding his hand or hugging |
| When you're out with a girl on a date and you and her | | | | him and being close to him. If he feels like you're |
| walking around or just talking, you have to understand | | | | accepting him and enjoy his company and being close |
| that you're the one who has to make a move! Girls | | | | to him, he'll most likely go for the kiss. |
| are told by society that they have to be passive and | | | | If you want to kiss him, it's going to be rather tricky, |
| receptive (not as much after shows such as Sex and | | | | since some guys might feel you're too aggressive to |
| the City). Thus, she is expecting you to take charge in | | | | hang out with. If he's super shy, you can simply tell him |
| escalating the touching that will eventually lead to a | | | | you want to kiss him, and let him kiss you. This way |
| kiss. | | | | you preserve his male ego and still get kissed :) |
| When you're out with her, be the first one to take her | | | | For both: |
| hand! Taking her hand is the first step towards bringing | | | | Kissing should be light and bring pleasure to both |
| yourself closer to her. If she's comfortable, you can | | | | partners. Don't rush too fast and start shoving your |
| escalate non-intrusive touching a little later, such as | | | | tongue down his or her throat. Just relax your tongue |
| touching her shoulders or hugging her. As you progress | | | | and softly touch your partner's lips and tongue. Just |
| doing this and watch her grow more and more | | | | barely touching, almost sliding. The kiss should feel light, |
| comfortable with your touch, you have much better | | | | yet passionate. As two of you get comfortable kissing, |
| chance of kissing her successfully, rather than just | | | | you can progress to more aggressive and deep kind |
| going for the kiss out of the blue. When you built this | | | | of kissing, such as French kissing. French kissing is |
| kind of touching comfort, get her and yourself into | | | | essentially the kind of kiss where there is lots of |
| some sort location where two of you could either sit | | | | tongue and sucking action. |
| or stand and talk comfortably. As two of you talk, | | | | Conclusion: Just let if flow and let it come to you |
| start stroking her hair softly and look into her eyes. If | | | | naturally. Build touch comfort over time and when the |
| you feel that she's comfortable with that, move in | | | | time is right, try to move closer to your partner so that |
| closer and closer. If she doesn't withdraw, go for the | | | | the kiss can naturally happen. Visit Kissing tips, advice |
| kiss, since if she's comfortable with you touching her | | | | for more information. |
| hair and standing so closely, most likely at that point | | | | |