| If you feel like you don't know how to
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| | 2. A little girl will request something.
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| talk to people of the opposite sex, you
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| | A boy? He makes demands.
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| might be onto something!
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| | 3. Girls tend to use language as a way to
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| Men and women definitely have different
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| | create harmony - to get closer to
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| ways of communicating. Learning how the
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| | someone. If you guessed that young boys
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| other half uses language will help to
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| | keep conflicts going by talking, you are
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| improve your communication with the
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| | right!
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| opposite sex.
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| | 4. Girls talk using words and will use
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| And if you're still not convinced, there
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| | more words to explain something. A young
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| is even a term that is specific to the
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| | boy is more likely to use actions to
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| different languages of the sexes. The
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| | emphasize what he is trying to say.
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| term is genderlect. Suzette Haden Elgin
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| | As we grow and learn how to talk to
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| coined the term in her book, Genderspeak.
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| | people, being aware of these differences
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| Her book talked about different methods
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| | can help (especially when the people you
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| men and women could use to better
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| | are talking to are of the opposite sex.)
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| communicate.
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| | Many of those early traits continue, as
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| Deborah Tannen went into even more detail
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| | we grow older. Men will continue to use
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| about gender communication in her book,
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| | communication as a means of staying
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| entitled You Just Don't Understand: Men
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| | independent, while women will continue to
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| and Women in Conversation (1990,
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| | use language as a tool for intimacy.
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| Ballantine.) Tannen says that even when a
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| | Grown-up men often will talk to establish
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| man and woman are raised in the same
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| | status (remember the boasting as little
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| neighbourhood or even in the same home
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| | boys?) Women will connect themselves to
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| they will grow up in different language
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| | others by using language to build up
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| worlds.
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| | rapport.
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| The question of how to talk to people of
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| | Tannen calls these differences
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| the opposite sex really needs to first be
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| | 'report-talk' (men) and 'rapport-talk',
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| answered by understanding the ways men
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| | for the women. Understanding this one
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| and women differ in how they express
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| | specific difference can really show how
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| themselves.
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| | women quite often take what men say,
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| Here are some of the biggest differences,
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| | personally, when they really were only
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| starting at a very young age:
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| | 'reporting' on a situation.
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| 1. Girls talk or use language as a way to
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| | Learning how to talk to people is made a
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| be liked. Little boys often talk to be
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| | lot simpler when you understand
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| boastful.
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| | genderlect - the language of the sexes.
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