| For most of us the first sexual kiss is | | | | that. |
| a great event, full of strange and | | | | Initial kisses are gentle and attentive, |
| exciting emotion. Many people remember | | | | so the pressure of your lips is at first |
| when and where and how they had their | | | | featherlight. Repeat these kisses for a |
| first kiss. Some were six or seven, | | | | while, explore the lips with your lips |
| others had to wait until after their | | | | and very lightly with the tip of your |
| twenties. Most people have good memories | | | | tongue. Feel the response of the other |
| of their first kiss. Even if they felt | | | | lips, do they open up or remain closed? |
| clumsy or shy or awkward, the excitement | | | | That is important for taking the next |
| of touching someone else's lips was | | | | step. If the other's lips remain closed, |
| enough to make them feel on top of the | | | | while they still enjoy the kissing, |
| world. | | | | refrain from going any further. Do not |
| There are exceptions, of course. Some | | | | force anything, do not worm your tonue |
| people remember their first kiss as | | | | between the other's lips, do not open |
| being without any pleasure or thrill. | | | | you mouth all wide and wet in passionate |
| Some remember having kisses forced upon | | | | and swooning surrender. |
| them against their will. Kissing can be | | | | The kiss step 3: tongue kissing |
| so clumsy and awkward that it gives pain | | | | There comes a moment, if not now then |
| or boredom or irritaion rather than | | | | later, when the lips kiss half open and |
| pleasure. The expression for this | | | | the tongues touch. This is sometimes |
| phenomenon is 'Sweet sixteen and never | | | | called French kissing, not because the |
| been kissed, only slobbered over.' | | | | French invented it but because people |
| So maybe quite a few young people (and | | | | used to think it very naughty or even |
| some older ones as well) may benefit | | | | dirty and disgusting. For the same |
| from a few lessons in kissing. For it | | | | reason, a condom was called a French |
| remains a fact that sexual kissing is | | | | letter and oral sex is still called |
| not on any curriculum. It is not taught | | | | 'French'. |
| at home or in school or in mail courses. | | | | The tongue kiss is another heartstopping |
| Kissing is supposed to come naturally | | | | event when you first experience it. When |
| and not to need any instruction or help. | | | | the tongues touch each other, it is |
| This is only partly true. Swimming comes | | | | again important to let them move gently |
| naturally, too, yet we need instruction | | | | and, you might say, curiously, exploring |
| and guidance to do it well and feel | | | | the other tongue, playing around it, |
| confident in the water. And even if you | | | | withdrawing and approaching, like a slow |
| are a natural talent, a perfect kisser, | | | | dance. So do not force your tongue into |
| you may find that your partner is not so | | | | the other mouth, or allow the other |
| good at it, and can use a little | | | | tongue to fill yours without response. |
| instruction. | | | | Very important also is to keep your |
| So here goes. | | | | teeth from touching the other's teeth. |
| The kiss step 1: location and time | | | | One of the most typical put-downers in |
| You can kiss anywhere and at any time, | | | | kissing is when people forget themselves |
| but experience teaches that in the | | | | in what they think is a passionate |
| beginning a quiet and safe place works | | | | embrace and hit each other's teeth hard |
| best. So that may be your room, provided | | | | and painfully. |
| there is no chance of intrusion, or a | | | | For this reason it is also handy to |
| secluded place in the country or by the | | | | remove spectacles before tongue kissing |
| sea. The city, too, offers places of | | | | starts. Taking off glasses gently can be |
| seclusion in the daytime, such as parks | | | | a great introduction to kissing anyway. |
| and porticos, but is mostly too crowded. | | | | The kiss: arousal |
| After dark, the city can be a wonderful | | | | Kissing expresses and intensifies sexual |
| place for going out, but it is not the | | | | feeling. Boys will experience a |
| best environment for practising the art | | | | hardening of the penis, girls will |
| of kissing. We don't recommend movies, | | | | become wet. The heart beats faster and |
| discos, pubs, department stores, taxis, | | | | breathing will quicken. You feel a warm |
| lavatories, restaurants, buses, | | | | glow all through your body: you are |
| pavements or underground trains, for the | | | | getting 'hot'. It is wonderful to keep |
| simple reason that there are too many | | | | this state of pleasure going for a |
| distractions, noise, and other people. | | | | while. Keep up the quality of your |
| It is better not to kiss intimately in | | | | kissing by not losing yourself |
| the presence of other people. It makes | | | | altogether, so don't forget to breathe |
| them feel excluded (they would like to | | | | or to swallow. Keep or move your partner |
| be doing what you are doing) or | | | | and yourself in comfortable positions, |
| embarrassed. | | | | so that arms or necks do not become |
| The kiss step 2: good kissing | | | | strained. |
| The most important characteristic of | | | | As experience grows, so does your |
| good kissing -of good lovemaking in | | | | repertoire. Kisses will go anywhere. Ear |
| general- is gentleness and attention. | | | | kisses are very exciting, as long as |
| Touch your partner with your hands on | | | | they are very light touches of the |
| the hair or face and look them in the | | | | tongue tip against the inside of the ear |
| eye. As you approach with your lips do | | | | shell. Do not go in deeply and take care |
| not be too hasty, but check the | | | | to hold your breath or breathe very very |
| response. If your partner is willing, | | | | lightly, otherwise it will hurt. A |
| they show it by moving their lips in | | | | whisper into the ear is very stimulating |
| your direction. When the lips touch, | | | | indeed. Lots of different kisses can be |
| keep them relaxed, but not too much. | | | | distinguished: |
| Lips should be neither tight or pinched | | | | underwater kisses are very suitable for |
| nor limp or flabby. The touch of loving | | | | beginning swimmers at play |
| lips is an exquisite experience and | | | | musical kisses are rhythmic dances of |
| should be savoured. Let your partner | | | | the tongue in the half dark |
| feel the pleasure you feel. You can | | | | counterkisses are different responses, |
| close your eyes (you naturally tend to | | | | wet against dry, quick agains slow |
| do that anyway), but it can be a pretty | | | | exchange kisses swap drink or food |
| good idea to open them at least a little | | | | (icecream, a strand of spaghetti). |
| now and then. Half open eyes show that | | | | Kissing gives pleasure in itself and can |
| you are enjoying the intimacy and are | | | | be all that you do, for a time at least. |
| communicating that enjoyment. Kissing is | | | | If you move from kissing to the next |
| best when you are giving as well as | | | | stage you can have great sex without |
| receiving pleasure and are both aware of | | | | intercourse. |