| Let's face it, potential dates will not jump on the hood | | | | toward a happily ever after to any date (especially the |
| of your car as you speed down the highway from | | | | first date) you must have a strategy. Most people will |
| home to work and back. You have to slow down, | | | | agree the first date is the most awkward simply due |
| step out of your comfort zone and really put some | | | | to the fact you don't really know what to anticipate. |
| effort toward meeting people in order to make the | | | | That is also the great fun of first dates. |
| dating scene seem less like a torture chamber and | | | | Taking the guesswork out of one part of the first date |
| more like the fun it is meant to be. | | | | trauma (or drama depending) it is a great idea to |
| But once you have an exciting prospect there is a | | | | simplify that first "date" by meeting for coffee during |
| whole new set of dilemmas. And delights. If you are | | | | the early evening or mid day. Not only does that give |
| like most people when you find an interesting person to | | | | you an opportunity to escape in as little as fifteen |
| date, a billion questions tramp across your mind. Should | | | | minutes if the experience is perfectly dreadful, it allows |
| I act as interested as I truly am? Should I try to remain | | | | the date to last as long as it needs to if things are |
| aloof? Will it scare him or her away if I bare my soul in | | | | rolling along nicely. And caffeine can be as effective |
| the first ten minutes? Should I pace myself and | | | | as alcohol when it comes to loosening tongues and |
| introduce my passions slowly? | | | | inhibitions! |
| Since there are plenty of dating books but no real | | | | One certain way of enjoying your first date is by being |
| manual out there, these will continue to be legitimate | | | | honest and attentive. If rejection is the one thing all |
| and timeless questions. Unfortunately the answer to all | | | | humans fear the most, acceptance has to be the one |
| of them is simply this: you have to trust your instincts | | | | thing everyone longs to experience. Be kind, courteous |
| with most things when it comes to dating. | | | | and respectful even if you don't feel the date is going |
| However there are a few questionable aspects of the | | | | the way you wanted it to go. Sometimes the person |
| dating scene that you can eliminate simply by setting a | | | | who does not fit our instant criteria is actually a |
| few subtle boundaries. To insure a comfortable | | | | genuine compatible match for us. |
| beginning and attempt a peaceful middle while leaning | | | | |