| First time sex is never as straightforward as most | | | | penetration can begin. |
| people believe. In fact, the expectations usually far | | | | The female should insist (and the male must agree) to |
| exceed the experience. For the male, it may be over | | | | use of a condom. |
| all too soon, without a great deal of satisfaction. | | | | However in a warm-up session (that will almost |
| Lets look at first time sex from both a male and | | | | always end up with a male orgasm), a condom need |
| female perspective and how to approach this critical | | | | not be used. |
| time in all our lives. | | | | In the second or third attempt, where penetration is the |
| For the female, it can be fraught with pain instead of | | | | goal, the male's penis would have been desensitized |
| pleasure, and with a quick ending, far from a | | | | by the all the preliminaries. |
| pleasurable experience. Approached correctly, | | | | Oral sex for first timers is a good idea, but difficult to |
| however, first time sex can be rewarding and fulfilling | | | | be good at. |
| instead of the opposite. | | | | With two inexperienced partners, oral sex or mutual |
| The Virgin Male | | | | oral sex may end up as a messy and non-romantic |
| Depending on where his information can from (about | | | | prelude to penetration. |
| the sexual experience) his basic knowledge will be | | | | Therefore, unless one of the two partners really have |
| limited to theory and masturbation. | | | | some experience in oral sex, it's best left for another |
| Neither theory nor masturbation prepares a virgin male | | | | time. |
| for a first time sexual experience. | | | | Time to Penetrate |
| The conversations of peers also can fill the first timer | | | | If the female is a virgin with her hymen intact, the |
| with misconceptions and wrong expectations. | | | | couple should use Astrolube or KY (or similar) that will |
| The Virgin Female | | | | help reduce the initial friction. |
| Depending on her age, the virgin female may have had | | | | With adequate lubrication (and the female wont have |
| numerous clitoral orgasms. A first time sexual | | | | much of her own if she is afraid of the act, even |
| experience and "the force of man" can provide many | | | | though she is willing. Use adequate lubrication. |
| unexpected situations, and feelings. | | | | The best first time sex position is with the female |
| If her hymen is in tact, she may be in for some real | | | | laying her side, and the male in back of her, with their |
| pain as well. | | | | legs lightly bent at the knees. |
| If there has not been sufficient foreplay, there may not | | | | The couple sort of resembles 2 spoons. The male can |
| also enough lubrication prior to the male insertion. | | | | caress the female, and hold her, while the female can |
| The female may be very young and also with high | | | | assist the male to insert his penis easily into her vagina. |
| expectations. Certainly if the act is about 20 seconds, | | | | As the couple is on their sides, the female can sort of |
| and all she felt was pain and pressure, her romantic | | | | regulate the pressure, and the depth o f the male's |
| expectations will not have been fulfilled. | | | | penetration. |
| Preparation | | | | If she feels pain, the female can alter the depth of the |
| It is advised that the couple experiment first with | | | | penis and even the angle. |
| mutual masturbation. | | | | Usually the first times will finish in less than 5 minutes. |
| This way the partner learns something about the | | | | The man can continue to hold the female tightly and |
| other's anatomy, and the stimulation (which can be | | | | caress here, and tell to her sweet things about their |
| overwhelming) can result in orgasms without | | | | experience. |
| penetration at the start. | | | | Following the above will save the couple some pain |
| This technique can lead into another session (after | | | | and hurt feelings. We wish you good luck, and hope to |
| some recovery time, say 45 minutes) where | | | | what you learned here into your later sexual lives. |