| First time sex is never as straightforward as | | | | (after some recovery time, say 45 minutes) |
| most people believe. In fact, the | | | | where penetration can begin. |
| expectations usually far exceed the | | | | |
| experience. For the male, it may be over all | | | | The female should insist (and the male must |
| too soon, without a great deal of | | | | agree) to use of a condom. |
| satisfaction. | | | | |
| | | | However in a warm-up session (that will |
| Lets look at first time sex from both a male | | | | almost always end up with a male orgasm), a |
| and female perspective and how to approach | | | | condom need not be used. |
| this critical time in all our lives. | | | | |
| | | | In the second or third attempt, where |
| For the female, it can be fraught with pain | | | | penetration is the goal, the male's penis |
| instead of pleasure, and with a quick ending, | | | | would have been desensitized by the all the |
| far from a pleasurable experience. Approached | | | | preliminaries. |
| correctly, however, first time sex can be | | | | |
| rewarding and fulfilling instead of the | | | | Oral sex for first timers is a good idea, but |
| opposite. | | | | difficult to be good at. |
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| The Virgin Male | | | | With two inexperienced partners, oral sex or |
| | | | mutual oral sex may end up as a messy and |
| Depending on where his information can from | | | | non-romantic prelude to penetration. |
| (about the sexual experience) his basic | | | | |
| knowledge will be limited to theory and | | | | Therefore, unless one of the two partners |
| masturbation. | | | | really have some experience in oral sex, it's |
| | | | best left for another time. |
| Neither theory nor masturbation prepares a | | | | |
| virgin male for a first time sexual | | | | Time to Penetrate |
| experience. | | | | |
| | | | If the female is a virgin with her hymen |
| The conversations of peers also can fill the | | | | intact, the couple should use Astrolube or KY |
| first timer with misconceptions and wrong | | | | (or similar) that will help reduce the |
| expectations. | | | | initial friction. |
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| The Virgin Female | | | | With adequate lubrication (and the female |
| | | | wont have much of her own if she is afraid of |
| Depending on her age, the virgin female may | | | | the act, even though she is willing. Use |
| have had numerous clitoral orgasms. A first | | | | adequate lubrication. |
| time sexual experience and "the force of man" | | | | |
| can provide many unexpected situations, and | | | | The best first time sex position is with the |
| feelings. | | | | female laying her side, and the male in back |
| | | | of her, with their legs lightly bent at the |
| If her hymen is in tact, she may be in for | | | | knees. |
| some real pain as well. | | | | |
| | | | The couple sort of resembles 2 spoons. The |
| If there has not been sufficient foreplay, | | | | male can caress the female, and hold her, |
| there may not also enough lubrication prior | | | | while the female can assist the male to |
| to the male insertion. | | | | insert his penis easily into her vagina. |
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| The female may be very young and also with | | | | As the couple is on their sides, the female |
| high expectations. Certainly if the act is | | | | can sort of regulate the pressure, and the |
| about 20 seconds, and all she felt was pain | | | | depth o f the male's penetration. |
| and pressure, her romantic expectations will | | | | |
| not have been fulfilled. | | | | If she feels pain, the female can alter the |
| | | | depth of the penis and even the angle. |
| Preparation | | | | |
| | | | Usually the first times will finish in less |
| It is advised that the couple experiment | | | | than 5 minutes. The man can continue to hold |
| first with mutual masturbation. | | | | the female tightly and caress here, and tell |
| | | | to her sweet things about their experience. |
| This way the partner learns something about | | | | |
| the other's anatomy, and the stimulation | | | | Following the above will save the couple some |
| (which can be overwhelming) can result in | | | | pain and hurt feelings. We wish you good |
| orgasms without penetration at the start. | | | | luck, and hope to what you learned here into |
| | | | your later sexual lives. |
| This technique can lead into another session | | | | |