| First time sex is never as | | | | 45 minutes) where penetration can begin. |
| straightforward as most people believe. | | | | The female should insist (and the male |
| In fact, the expectations usually far | | | | must agree) to use of a condom. |
| exceed the experience. For the male, it | | | | However in a warm-up session (that will |
| may be over all too soon, without a | | | | almost always end up with a male |
| great deal of satisfaction. | | | | orgasm), a condom need not be used. |
| Lets look at first time sex from both a | | | | In the second or third attempt, where |
| male and female perspective and how to | | | | penetration is the goal, the male's |
| approach this critical time in all our | | | | penis would have been desensitized by |
| lives. | | | | the all the preliminaries. |
| For the female, it can be fraught with | | | | Oral sex for first timers is a good |
| pain instead of pleasure, and with a | | | | idea, but difficult to be good at. |
| quick ending, far from a pleasurable | | | | With two inexperienced partners, oral |
| experience. Approached correctly, | | | | sex or mutual oral sex may end up as a |
| however, first time sex can be rewarding | | | | messy and non-romantic prelude to |
| and fulfilling instead of the opposite. | | | | penetration. |
| The Virgin Male | | | | Therefore, unless one of the two |
| Depending on where his information can | | | | partners really have some experience in |
| from (about the sexual experience) his | | | | oral sex, it's best left for another |
| basic knowledge will be limited to | | | | time. |
| theory and masturbation. | | | | Time to Penetrate |
| Neither theory nor masturbation prepares | | | | If the female is a virgin with her hymen |
| a virgin male for a first time sexual | | | | intact, the couple should use Astrolube |
| experience. | | | | or KY (or similar) that will help reduce |
| The conversations of peers also can fill | | | | the initial friction. |
| the first timer with misconceptions and | | | | With adequate lubrication (and the |
| wrong expectations. | | | | female wont have much of her own if she |
| The Virgin Female | | | | is afraid of the act, even though she is |
| Depending on her age, the virgin female | | | | willing. Use adequate lubrication. |
| may have had numerous clitoral orgasms. | | | | The best first time sex position is with |
| A first time sexual experience and "the | | | | the female laying her side, and the male |
| force of man" can provide many | | | | in back of her, with their legs lightly |
| unexpected situations, and feelings. | | | | bent at the knees. |
| If her hymen is in tact, she may be in | | | | The couple sort of resembles 2 spoons. |
| for some real pain as well. | | | | The male can caress the female, and hold |
| If there has not been sufficient | | | | her, while the female can assist the |
| foreplay, there may not also enough | | | | male to insert his penis easily into her |
| lubrication prior to the male insertion. | | | | vagina. |
| The female may be very young and also | | | | As the couple is on their sides, the |
| with high expectations. Certainly if the | | | | female can sort of regulate the |
| act is about 20 seconds, and all she | | | | pressure, and the depth o f the male's |
| felt was pain and pressure, her romantic | | | | penetration. |
| expectations will not have been | | | | If she feels pain, the female can alter |
| fulfilled. | | | | the depth of the penis and even the |
| Preparation | | | | angle. |
| It is advised that the couple experiment | | | | Usually the first times will finish in |
| first with mutual masturbation. | | | | less than 5 minutes. The man can |
| This way the partner learns something | | | | continue to hold the female tightly and |
| about the other's anatomy, and the | | | | caress here, and tell to her sweet |
| stimulation (which can be overwhelming) | | | | things about their experience. |
| can result in orgasms without | | | | Following the above will save the couple |
| penetration at the start. | | | | some pain and hurt feelings. We wish you |
| This technique can lead into another | | | | good luck, and hope to what you learned |
| session (after some recovery time, say | | | | here into your later sexual lives. |