| I wish I had a dollar for every time I heard someone | | | | get to the point of hopelessness before I suceeded? |
| say that! When I ran a support group for my local | | | | Well, my theory boils down to this: When you lower |
| infertility organization, practically every woman in the | | | | your resistance, you make room for success. So what |
| group who got pregnant said that very thing.Infertility | | | | does that mean? When you want something so bad, |
| chips away at your self esteem and it makes you | | | | and it's not happening, you focus more on what you |
| believe that you're unworthy of the most basic of | | | | don't have instead of what you do have or what you |
| human needs. If you've been struggling with infertility for | | | | want. You try to force things into place.When you |
| over a year (or two or three), you begin to believe that | | | | finally give up, the flood gates open. Your dream starts |
| getting pregnant is this impossible dream - it's soooo | | | | chasing you instead of the other way around. I've had |
| way out there that you'll never achieve it. Well...it may | | | | so many people say, "You are so lucky to get |
| be helpful for you to know that almost everyone in | | | | pregnant naturally at your age". Well... I have something |
| your situation has felt that way.A couple of weeks | | | | to say about that too. I truly believe that you make |
| before I found out I was pregnant with my daughter, I | | | | your own luck. Yes, getting pregnant naturally at the |
| was ready to throw in the towel. I told everyone in the | | | | age of 44 with only one tube had an element of luck, |
| support group I was moving on to childfree, and my | | | | but it probably had more to do with preparedness |
| husband and I started making some real plans for the | | | | meeting opportunity. I had refined my pregnancy |
| future. For the past six years our lives revolved around | | | | protocol over six years and I think I had fine tuned my |
| timing intercourse, taking pregnacy tests, having | | | | body to the point that I had a high liklihood of success |
| miscarriages (and sometimes surgery to remove | | | | give the right conditions.So when I say "If I can get |
| them), and spending every waking moment wondering | | | | pregnant, anyone can", I mean it. Prepare your body, |
| if I had done everything possible to conceive.And then, | | | | do everything you can to optimize your chances of |
| just when I had made peace with my decision to | | | | conception, then get out of the way! Don't try so hard |
| move on to childfree, the "impossible" happened - I | | | | that you sabotage your success. Things will happen |
| was pregnant. Why is life like that? Why did I have to | | | | when the time it right. |