| Communication problems exist in all relationships | | | | lover has said or done but you do not tell your partner |
| regardless of how loving you and your partner might | | | | about it, he/she cannot read your mind. Bottling up your |
| be. The only difference is how well you handle the | | | | feelings can lead to wounds that bleed so badly that |
| problems and makes attempts at solving them. In fact, | | | | they will never heal and that's when you find yourself |
| learning how to communicate well may also be the | | | | drifting further and further apart. To save your |
| key to help you save marriage. Fortunately, it is not | | | | marriage, you have to play a part in being honest and |
| difficult to learn good communication skills and the 6 | | | | frank with each other. However, mind your words |
| tips below will help you to overcome any | | | | used and do not hurt your spouse in the process of |
| communication barriers you might have and improve | | | | speaking your mind. Just remember that your spouse |
| your relationship with your loved ones. | | | | probably did not intend to hurt you and is just as |
| 1. Understand the differences in gender | | | | unhappy to learn that you are upset by something he |
| It is vital to understand that men and women do not | | | | she has said or done. So speak your mind to clear any |
| handle relationships in the same ways. If you do not | | | | miscommunication. |
| keep an open mind and try to understand how the | | | | 5. Encourage, not criticize |
| opposite gender approach love matters, you are very | | | | You may think that you have good intentions in |
| likely to simply view your partner's behavior as being | | | | wanting your spouse to change his/her flaws or bad |
| illogical, not mature in thinking or petty. However, if you | | | | habits but by criticizing them, you are only getting them |
| put in an effort to find out and understand how your | | | | to drift further from you because nobody likes to be |
| spouse views relationships, you will save yourself a lot | | | | criticized. If you really hope that your spouse can |
| of relationship problems. This should be your first step | | | | improve, giving positive feedback will work better. You |
| if you are trying to save your marriage. | | | | must remember that you are a lover, not a teacher to |
| 2. Refrain from blaming your partner | | | | your spouse. |
| It takes two hands to clap so when there is any | | | | 6. Do not divert from the facts in your arguments |
| problem in a relationship, both parties are responsible. | | | | It is perfectly normal for a couple to have differing |
| So when a conflict occurs, do not waste time finding | | | | opinions but it will not benefit your relationship if you |
| out whose fault it was. Instead you should focus your | | | | say things that you cannot prove. Talking about your |
| energy on looking for ways to solve the problems. If | | | | emotions is fine but do not make sweeping |
| you blame your partner for the problem, the other | | | | statements that are subjective. For example, you can |
| party will get all defensive and a quarrel is sure to | | | | say that your spouse has embarrassed you when he |
| ensue. So remember, focus on solving the problem, not | | | | tells your friend about your fear for lizards because |
| on finding out whose fault it was. | | | | you are talking about your feelings and you have |
| 3. Listen, not just hear | | | | explained your point clearly. On the other hand, if you |
| There is a difference between listening and hearing. | | | | say that your spouse was disrespectful to you in front |
| Listening is when you pay attention to what is said by | | | | of your friends, you are not making your point clear as |
| you spouse or lover and try to understand fully what | | | | standards of respect differ for each individual. |
| he/she is trying to say. However, hearing is simply | | | | It is not difficult to save your marriage by applying |
| allowing your partner's words to enter or maybe not | | | | some simple techniques such as overcoming |
| even entering your ears but you did not bother to | | | | communication problems in your relationships. However, |
| comprehend what your partner is really trying to get | | | | you need to get the right and proven save marriage |
| across to you. By listening thoughtfully, you can help to | | | | advice from someone who has personally |
| greatly reduce the possibility of communication | | | | experienced and tried out the methods. Then, all you |
| problems that are caused by misunderstanding each | | | | have to do is simply to apply these strategies in your |
| other. | | | | daily life and you are on your way to rebuilding your |
| 4. Speak your mind but use kind words | | | | relationship. For a start, you can apply the above |
| If you are upset by something that your spouse or | | | | mentioned tips from today! |