Advice For Unhappy Spouses - Strengthen Your Marriage With Laughter

A local radio station runs a daily trivia contest. Recentlybring couples closer together.
the question they posed to listeners was, "What is itLaughter creates a greater sense of connection
that children do 400 times a day that adults do only 15between people.
times a day?" The correct answer; laugh. I don't knowUsing gentle humour often helps you tackle sensitive
if this statistic includes people who spend their dayssubjects, resolve disagreements, and reframe
with children. I often find myself laughing along with myproblems.
children (even when what they're laughing at doesn'tA sense of humour is the key to resilience. It helps you
seem all that funny) just because their laughter is sotake hardships in stride, weather disappointment, and
contagious. All the same, I don't think I would findbounce back from adversity and loss.
myself reaching the 400 laughs a day mark.The use of humour helps to put things into perspective.
So, where along the way do we lose our sense ofHumour can help you to be more creative in your
humour? Certainly the responsibilities and concerns weproblem solving.
must shoulder as adults are much greater than that ofHumour helps you to be more spontaneous, let go of
children, but does our worry and seriousness help usdefensiveness, release inhibitions, and express your
shoulder these burdens better? If laughter is the besttrue feelings, which can all benefit your relationship.
medicine, should we not work harder to foster a senseIt makes sense that a sense of humour can improve
of humour in ourselves?your marriage, but what if you don't have a sense of
One of the great burdens of adulthood for many isha ha. How do you regain a lost sense of humour? My
relationship problems. It can be very painful when yoursuggestion: Ask an expert. Surely you can learn
spouse, who is supposed to be a source of supportsomething from someone who laughs 400 time a day.
and fulfilment, is a source of conflict and stress. How~~~~~~~
do you maintain a sense of humour while dealing withFor Catholic Eyes Only
the difficulties of a strained relationship? Well, again,~~~~~~~
maybe laughter is the best medicine. Maybe in thoseWhen asked, "What role does humor play in the life of
moments when we don't know whether to laugh ora pope?" Pope Benedict replied,
cry, we need to choose laughter more often. Not that"I'm not a man who constantly thinks up jokes. But I
laughter can solve all of your problems. However,think it's very important to be able to see the funny
perhaps a little levity in your relationship will strengthenside of life and its joyful dimension and not to take
the bond of friendship and give you the strength toeverything too tragically. I'd also say it's necessary for
work on the deeper issues.my ministry. A writer once said that angels can fly
Laughter releases stress reducing chemicals into yourbecause they don't take themselves too seriously.
brain, which can enhance your day and improve yourMaybe we could also fly a bit if we didn't think we
health, but what does that have to do withwere so important."
relationships.Wouldn't it be wonderful if we could all learn to fly in
Well:our relationships!
Laughter and humour relieve tension, lift spirits, and