| A Marriage must always Begin with a promise which is | | | | together and decide on a compromise or solution - |
| to keep you both united until death do we part, | | | | especially if you both agree there is a problem. |
| although for many marriages this is a failed promise. | | | | When trying to find a compromise to the problem, don't |
| For some keeping the spark in their marriage bright is | | | | point the blame at each other as this will only make the |
| relatively simple. When it comes down to it the only | | | | problem more severe. |
| marriages that actually work out well in the long term | | | | If you both have a different issue which is worse than |
| are the ones who put some effort and work into it. If | | | | any of your other problems then you first need to |
| you would like some helpful advice on how to save | | | | check to see if those two problems are related to |
| your marriage then read on. | | | | each other. |
| A great marriage doesn't just happen without any | | | | For example, he believes that the most sever problem |
| effort, or work. If your marriage isn't as fun and | | | | is "you are always out" and you think the worst issue |
| exciting as when you first got married, don't panic | | | | is that "you are never cleaning up after yourself". It |
| because there are plenty of things you can do to | | | | may just be that because you are never home, he |
| improve the quality of it before seeking the help of a | | | | finds that there isn't no point cleaning up as he is the |
| marriage therapist. | | | | only one who is ever at home. See how both of these |
| The most important two things which a successful | | | | issue's could be effecting each other? |
| marriage has are Respect and Consideration for each | | | | What this means is that you need to fix both of these |
| other. I want you to think back to when you first got | | | | problems first. Allow for some time to get together |
| together, these feelings would have been much | | | | and work out when you both have separate activities |
| stronger back then. If you noticed that your spouse | | | | so that following you have been out you can mutually |
| won't show you the same level of consideration and | | | | end up at home at the same time. You may have to |
| respect then you wont show it either. | | | | cut back on particular activities or possibly join a few |
| Take a minute and try to think about the times your | | | | groups of friends together so you can spend more |
| partner has shown you these types of feelings | | | | time together with your husband/wife. |
| towards you. If you have trouble thinking of certain | | | | If its work keeping you away from your partner, then |
| times, then you two need sit down and have a nice | | | | you may want to discuss with your employer some |
| long conversation. | | | | alternative working hours, say come in early on |
| You and your partner both need to write down a | | | | Monday's and Tuesday's and leave early Wednesday. |
| number between 1 and 10 on a piece of paper of how | | | | If you both look outside the box, you will be surprised |
| bad you think the problem is, after you have done this | | | | at what options that are available. |
| you need to show each other what score you have | | | | Which ever problems you need to work out, with |
| given. After showing each other your numbers lets | | | | some consideration and respect, and a genuine effort |
| say you write down a score of 4/10 and your partner | | | | from each spouse, you will have much less problems |
| puts down 7/10, as you will see by the scores you | | | | within your marriage and will find that its much easier |
| partner probably had no idea just how bad things really | | | | to come talk about your problems. |
| are. You will find by doing this that you can come | | | | |