Christian Marriage Advice - 3 Ways to Know If You Respect Your Husband

Every wife wants to have a loving and respectfulThis is exactly how many husbands feel when you
husband but when it comes to us respecting ourare always quarrelling, arguing or nagging. I have heard
husbands we often times compromise. There areof wives who complain that their husbands do not love
three ways to know if you are being respectful toto stay home. That they prefer hanging with the boys,
your husband and we will look at them below:that they stay back late at work or are just no where
What Does the Bible Say?to be found.
Once I am counseling a wife and I find out she is aMany times, these wives are the ones who contribute
Christian I go straight for the bible. If this is what we liveto their husbands' absence because their husbands
by then it should be applied to every area of our lives.prefer being around individuals who treat them with
The role of a wife is no exception, because the biblemore respect. Maybe you are experiencing this
explicitly encourages wives to respect their husbands.situation. Maybe you need to look at how you have
Let us look at what Ephesians chapter six and versecontributed to this distance. Maybe you need to tame
thirty three says, "However, each of you also mustyour tongue.
love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife mustHow Do You Speak About Him With Your Friends?
respect her husband.Respect is not only expected when you are with your
The first half tells the husband to love his wife. We willhusband but also when you are apart.
have to discuss this in another article. What I want youThere are many wives who speak badly about their
to focus on is the second half that relates directly tohusbands with their friends. Sometimes, if their friends
you.did not know their husbands they would think they
Now, respect cannot be conditional, if you respect me Iwere talking about a monster.
will respect you. That is not how it works. Too oftenBecause of this attitude their friends sometimes lose
we allow the other person's behavior to dictate ourrespect for him and treat him with the same amount
actions and we end up having a troubled marriage.of contempt. This is done in front of and behind his
How Do You speak To Him?back
Wives, it is not okay to fly off the handle and at theIt is your responsibility to ensue that you are not only
same time expect our husbands to pamper, adore andrespectful of your husband but that you expect it of
respect us.your friends. They should know where you stand in
Love and respect has to go both ways. I am alwaysthis area and should never be allowed to cross the line.
sobered by Proverbs chapter twenty five verseLet us remember our role as wives and ensure that
twenty four which says, "Better to live on a corner ofwe are helping to make our marriage a success.
the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife."