| Sometimes you think about how you ever got this | | | | these can bring back a lot of goodwill. It doesn't matter |
| point in your relationship: two adults living together like | | | | if it feels awkward at first, soon you'll find yourselves |
| total strangers. Just think, at the beginning it was | | | | reminiscing about the good times. This might lead to |
| almost too painful to be separated for even just a day. | | | | the both of you wanting to create more happy times |
| Back then it was easier to do even the hardest of | | | | again. |
| things: you set aside the time, and you waited up no | | | | Hear No Evil, Speak No Evil |
| matter how late it got. Now days turn into weeks, | | | | It's common to complain about our spouse to our |
| weeks turn into months without the two of you | | | | friends. However, it's not healthy. Have you ever |
| speaking to each other. Talking is almost too painful. | | | | thought about how your venting intensifies your |
| How do you turn things around at this point in your | | | | negative feelings about your bad marriage and makes |
| troubled marriage? | | | | it worse? The more we vent, the more we believe |
| The answer lies in getting back to the basics: | | | | that our significant other is not doing enough to love us. |
| reaffirming your commitment to each other. | | | | Our spouses, despite how we think about them should |
| Set Aside Your Issues | | | | be the first people we protect from other people's |
| You've fought a hundred times about a problem but | | | | spite. How would you feel if somebody suddenly |
| you're still getting nowhere. Both of you are angry and | | | | talked badly about your mother? Your partner is the |
| even resentful. If you want to start healing your | | | | one person that you vowed to protect and cherish; |
| relationship, you've go to work on moving past the hurt. | | | | they are a part of your family. Speak kindly about |
| Just simply decide to move on and.... move on. Don't | | | | them so that you'll also start feeling good yourself. If |
| talk about being neglected or betrayed. | | | | you want to vent then write it in a journal and after |
| Instead focus on anything positive that will bring | | | | you feel better rip it up! |
| goodwill at this point. Both of you deserve a break! Out | | | | It may take a lot of effort to save your marriage but it |
| of the blue, just cook his/her favorite meal or just do | | | | is always well worth it. You just need to move past |
| some other random act of kindness. | | | | hurtful situations that you experienced. How do you do |
| Move Forward Through The Past | | | | it? One thing to do is to remember special events like |
| If you had your own rituals when you were first | | | | anniversaries and birthdays. Another thing is that you |
| married, then why don't you do them again? Surprise | | | | should only speak positively about your spouse to |
| your spouse with mementos of happy memories | | | | others (including your mother, sister, and best friend. |
| together. Even if the two of you feel uncomfortable | | | | Honor your commitments and soon you'll find yourself |
| with it, do something for your husband or wife on | | | | with that loving feeling once again. |
| birthdays and anniversaries. Meaningful events like | | | | |