| I'm sure that you want to have a happy marriage; | | | | after I heard it). Take whatever the situation is right |
| ninety nine percent of people who get married do for | | | | now and make it the best you can. You will be |
| love and happiness. The only problem is that you were | | | | AMAZED at how things will work out good. Always |
| never formally taught HOW to have a happy marriage. | | | | remember, more often than not, things could be worse. |
| In this article I'm going to show 3 ways to improve your | | | | Be grateful for what you have and stop longing for |
| marriage if it isn't going the way you wanted and | | | | what you don't have. Some of the best success |
| hoped that it would go. | | | | stories for both life and business have come from |
| 1. Throw the word "if" out of your vocabulary. This | | | | these types of situations. |
| type of thinking and speaking does not allow you to | | | | 3. Stop just hoping. I met a friend of mine a few days |
| live in the real world with your real situations. It only | | | | ago. A very wealthy person (by inheritance) who just |
| causes anxiety and discouragement. This word | | | | lost a lot of his money. I asked him what he was doing |
| causes you to live in fairy land and compared to fairy | | | | now and he said that he was trying to make his |
| land NOTHING is good. | | | | money back but he didn't want to work! |
| Statements such as "If I would have first gotten my | | | | Did I give it to him!!! |
| degree, then I would be happy today" or "If I just would | | | | Things don't work like that (except in Hollywood). If |
| have..." just make you feel bad for yourself. You don't | | | | something is important to you and you want it then DO |
| have a degree and you didn't do... so don't try to think | | | | SOMETHING to get it. By just dreaming and hoping it |
| how good it would have been if you did. | | | | will be, probably won't make it happen. Most solutions |
| And the truth is that you do not necessarily know if | | | | require work and effort to be put in to get the best |
| that situation would have turned out any better than | | | | results. |
| where you are today with the choices you made. | | | | I'm sure that you got married in order to be happy; you |
| Thinking this way is a waste of precious energy and | | | | just never learned how to have a happy marriage. |
| allows for too much negativity. | | | | Stop living in fairy land by dreaming "what would have |
| 2. Get into the "make lemonade out of a lemon" mode. | | | | been if" and dreaming and hoping about the future. Do |
| I remember hearing this adage from my father so | | | | the best you can to make your situation better now |
| many times when I was young and it surely got on my | | | | and you will be tremendously surprised at how much |
| nerves THEN. But now I see how right it is, | | | | happier you will be. |
| (unfortunately I didn't take it to heart until many years | | | | |