| When you get married, everything is beautiful. A few | | | | Communication is not just about getting your opinion |
| years later, the baby comes along. Soon, both you and | | | | heard; it's also about listening. How about having a |
| your spouse are so busy taking care of the family and | | | | "date night" with your husband? Yes, it can help, but |
| earning an income that you hardly connect emotionally | | | | you need to focus on your spouse and temporarily |
| or mentally as husband and wife anymore. Having | | | | forget about the children. The kids are never a good |
| children changes a marriage, naturally. But, it doesn't | | | | enough reason to save the marriage. If you want to |
| mean your marriage has to suffer. First you get to | | | | stay in the marriage because of the children, then your |
| know each other and then when you like the person | | | | marriage doesn't stand a chance because you don't |
| you start courting. When you can relate to one | | | | want to be together. You just want to be in the |
| another, then only can you call it a relationship. Anything | | | | marriage for the sake of the kids. The kids don't need |
| short of that cannot be called a relationship. These are | | | | your marriage. The kids need their parents. It doesn't |
| the things that need to be clarified first. | | | | matter if the parents are together or apart as long as |
| People get married because they're in love. When | | | | their parents are there for them when they need them. |
| you're in love, everything looks nice. But, you need to | | | | So, don't use the kids as a reason to stay married. If |
| ask yourself, can you like that person? Because, there | | | | you want to work at the relationship and marriage, |
| are times when you feel you want to strangle your | | | | then work at it because there's something worthy in it. |
| spouse, but it's the 'like' that makes you want to hang | | | | When in Doubt |
| on. There are times when you think 'I don't love you | | | | If you think the relationship is strained or in trouble, after |
| but I like you, so I'll stay'. It is believed that without a | | | | the baby comes, then seek help. It doesn't matter who |
| strong relationship, having a baby can actually break a | | | | you go to as long as you find someone who can help |
| marriage. Having a child will not save a marriage and | | | | you with your relationship. If there is strain in the |
| children are never a good enough reason to stay in a | | | | husband-wife relationship, then it is about the |
| marriage. It is advised that couples should have a | | | | relationship; it's not about the baby. Don't wait till you |
| strong relationship before bringing children into the | | | | think you're heading for a divorce. The moment you |
| picture. A lot of people think that just because they're | | | | feel that something is not right, you'll know because |
| married, that that secures everything. No. There's a big | | | | you feel frustrated and disappointed. Those are |
| difference between a relationship and a marriage. A | | | | already signs and symptoms that something is not |
| marriage is a certificate saying that you are the | | | | right. So, before it gets to the point where you're sick |
| husband and you are the wife, but if you don't have a | | | | of each other, please seek help. Don't try to fix it |
| relationship then the marriage is worthless; it's just a | | | | yourself. Nobody can. Even counselors go to another |
| piece of paper. What adds value to the marriage is | | | | counselors for marriage advice. |
| the relationship. And, if you don't relate to one another, | | | | Thus, accordingly I feel that every way should be used |
| you don't have a relationship. Thus, a need arises to | | | | in order to save a marriage from collapsing and thus |
| save a marriage under these circumstances. | | | | any way which can get a marriage to halt is primarily |
| While communication is important, it is not the magic | | | | important. There are lots and lots of ways available to |
| tonic for every problem. Often a couple may think they | | | | save a married life and a marriage is a gift that |
| are communicating, but are they really listening? | | | | deserves being saved. |