| Of all the marriage advice out there, what is the best? | | | | to do that once you get into a relationship. |
| Instead of trying to focus on 1000 things, is there some | | | | However, as we move into the me/us phase, a lot of |
| marriage guidance that can help keep a marriage on | | | | problems can occur. Feelings of "he doesn't want to |
| the right track? Is there something useful to pay | | | | spend time with my anymore" and "she is too needy" |
| attention to first? | | | | may start to replace the love and passion of the |
| Here is one tip that can pay off for years. One of the | | | | honeymoon phase. This is the phase where a lot of |
| most powerful pieces of marriage advice is this: there | | | | couples may feel they are falling out of love. But it isn't |
| are phases to a marriage relationship. This is very | | | | that. It is a normal shift from hot and heavy passion to |
| important to understand because it can prevent a lot | | | | more general satisfaction and pleasure. As a couple, |
| of problems down the road. | | | | you both need to find time to follow your own interests |
| We all know and understand the first phase of | | | | and passions. |
| marriage. It is often called the honeymoon phase. We | | | | Do not mistake the changing stages of marriage to |
| have hopefully all felt this phase of marriage intimately. | | | | mean that you aren't in love or that there is some big |
| We feel deeply in love. We want to spend all the time | | | | problem with your relationship. The high passion of the |
| we have being together. We are "merged" with our | | | | honeymoon phase won't last, but it doesn't mean you |
| partner and feel so richly connected. | | | | won't have lots of passion and pleasure from your |
| Here is marriage advice that you can put to use for | | | | marriage. Accept the changing nature of your feelings |
| the rest of your life together. The honeymoon phase | | | | during the me/us phase. Accept that both of you won't |
| doesn't last! It isn't meant to. Won't happen for you. | | | | want to spend every waking minute together and that |
| Didn't happen for your parents. Ain't happening for | | | | this is a good thing, because it is nature's way of letting |
| anyone you know. It last six months to a year if you | | | | you get on with your lives. |
| are lucky, then it begins to fade. | | | | Don't give up on your marriage because you no longer |
| So the deep feelings of love and connection that are | | | | feel as deep a love and connection. It is a good thing |
| the hallmark of the first few months of marriage are | | | | to move into the me and us stage, where you add to |
| going to pass. You then move into the me/us phase. | | | | the quality of the marriage by working on the quality of |
| Here you are married, you enjoy being a couple, but | | | | your own life. The passion is still there, it is just often a |
| you also need to separate some, focus on your own | | | | more general contentment with the way things are |
| goals and interests. Relationships aren't meant to take | | | | between you. This is marriage advice that you can |
| over your life and fulfill all your dreams. You still have | | | | hopefully put to use over the years. |