| You may be struggling to get back that happiness you | | | | There is a saying that: The wife marries the husband |
| and your spouse once shared. You have tried so | | | | hoping that he will change and he does not. While the |
| many things but nothing seems to change. There are | | | | husband marries the wife hoping she will not change |
| several things you can do, but for the sake of time we | | | | but she does. If you are guilty of wanting to turn your |
| will look at four very important areas in your marriage, | | | | spouse into your ideal husband or wife, you may go |
| that if you improve, can make a hugh difference for | | | | over board and actually push them away. |
| years to come. | | | | Support |
| Companionship | | | | We have found that many marriages that fall apart did |
| Marriage is such a beautiful gift from God but too | | | | so because of an unsupportive spouse. If they want to |
| often we take it for granted. The first year and for | | | | do a particular thing that would benefit the family, they |
| some the first months of marriage, you cherished the | | | | receive oppositions from every angle. |
| companionship you shared with your spouse. | | | | They never feel like their suggestions or decisions are |
| It felt great knowing you were going home to | | | | worth anything in the eyes of their spouse. They may |
| someone you wanted to spend the rest of your life | | | | resort to seeking support from others outside their |
| with. But for some, this feeling eventually changes. | | | | marriage. Very soon their spouse is complaining that |
| They no longer look forward to seeing their husband | | | | they are having an emotional affair. |
| and he is experiencing the same feelings or just feel | | | | While emotional affairs are definitely inexcusable, a |
| hurt and neglected. | | | | difficult and uncooperative spouse is also inexcusable. |
| This may happen because you have allowed the | | | | No Need to Be a Super Hero |
| pressures of life to drown out what was once | | | | In the same way we need to support our spouses, we |
| extremely special. Your spouse is no longer your best | | | | also need to accept support from them. Some |
| friend. | | | | individuals think they need to be super heroes in their |
| The first step in regaining a happy marriage is | | | | marriage. They try to do everything on their own |
| recapturing that companionship you once shared. You | | | | causing their partner to feel rejected. |
| need to love and look forward to spending times with | | | | Everything around the house is done by then. |
| each other. You need to see the importance of those | | | | However, when things become overwhelming, that is |
| times and cherish every moment. | | | | the time they cry that their spouse is lazy and selfish |
| If both of you have become distant; you may need to | | | | but in truth they did not give them a chance to help. |
| address the problem and make some changes. | | | | This is especially true for individuals who were |
| Sometimes couples lose this sense of companionship | | | | independent for many years before marriage. Now |
| because they find themselves doing and enjoying | | | | that they are married it is extremely difficult for them |
| totally different activities. Think of some things you can | | | | to depend on their spouse in anyway. |
| do together. Things you both enjoy. | | | | Remember, marriage is about giving and taking; 50/50 |
| Acceptance | | | | not 80/20 or 20/80. |
| A spouse who experiences rejection can become | | | | Closing Questions |
| extremely unhappy and depressed. You may | | | | I will close this article with four questions for you to |
| subconsciously reject your spouse or even | | | | consider: |
| consciously do it just to punish them for something | | | | - Do I consider my spouse as my best friend? |
| they did. | | | | - Do I constantly criticize my spouse? |
| What ever the reason, this is one area that hurts | | | | - Do I support my spouse's ideas or do I usually find a |
| every marriage and has led to separations and | | | | reason why they will not work? |
| divorce. | | | | - Do I come across as superman or superwoman in |
| Some couples think it is the huge things that destroy a | | | | my marriage? |
| marriage, but it is actually the daily small things that you | | | | |
| allow to slide. | | | | Do you want to regain that happiness and intimacy |
| Although you and your spouse may have many | | | | you once shared with your spouse? Life is too short |
| differences, you need to accept him or her for who | | | | to spend it wishing you had a happy and steaming hot |
| they are. Too often I find that the wives are guilty of | | | | marriage when you can do something about it. |
| wanting to change their husbands. | | | | |