| Marriage advice is easy and cheap, isn't it? Just about | | | | in love can be like being drunk - it distorts you view of |
| anyone seems happy to issue marriage guidance. Yet | | | | reality. The subject of your love can do no wrong and |
| statistics show that there are more unhappy | | | | all different areas of your brain are impaired due to |
| marriages today than ever before. Kinda strange, don't | | | | your preoccupation with them. And like intoxication, this |
| you think? Unless you're on the inside looking out of a | | | | state rarely lasts for very long. Reality comes back |
| long term relationship. And then you know just how | | | | daily, and you need to work together to maintain a |
| hard it is to see the big picture clearly. | | | | healthy and loving relationship. |
| Having been stuck inside an unhappy marriage for a | | | | Marriage Advice Tip 4 You get what you give - that's |
| long time, and then having the luck or good fortune to | | | | a fact, although the time scale might make it appear to |
| be helped to see reality, I hope these hard-earned tips | | | | be something less than a fule. But if you do everything |
| can rejuvenate your marriage too. | | | | you can to make your partner happy, the chances are |
| Marriage Advice Tip 1 Communicate! That means | | | | they will try to make you happy. The more effort you |
| listen. And talk. In that order. A marriage is nothing | | | | put into making your partner understand how much |
| without communication. Communication means | | | | they mean to you, the more likely they'll do the same |
| switching the TV off and sitting down and talking over | | | | for you. |
| your day. It means taking time out just to discuss | | | | Marriage Advice Tip 5 This is a biggie. Mending a |
| things, events, feelings, news. And letting your partner | | | | relationship doesn't mean mending your partner. The |
| know in a direct way when there is a problem. A | | | | only person you can change is yourself. Remember |
| marriage is enhanced by good direct communication. | | | | that that and you could save yourself a lifetime of |
| Marriage Advice Tip 2 Be honest with yourself. You | | | | futility and frustration. The fact is, you're both in this |
| can admit when things are wrong. In a marriage it can | | | | marriage, and so any issues or situations always |
| be very easy to let yourself turn a blind eye to things | | | | include both of you. So any fixing has to be a team |
| and make believe that everything will be okay. Not | | | | effort. |
| likely. If it's bugging you, you need to acknowledge that | | | | This marriage advice might sound simple. And it is. But |
| fact and then either let it go, or do something to | | | | for anyone caught up in the turmoil of an unhappy |
| change it. Problems in marriages are like snowballs | | | | realtionship, it can seem impossible. The earlier you |
| rolling down a hill - it's easier to stop them early. | | | | apply the principles, the better equipped you both will |
| Marriage Advice Tip 3 Do you know the difference | | | | be to ensure a good marriage can weather the tough |
| between falling in love and maintaining a loving | | | | times. The links below lead to more great marriage |
| relationship? Not knowing that distinction is the cause | | | | guidance and advice. |
| of more troubled marriages than you'd imagine. Falling | | | | |