Marriage Advice - How to Deal With Conflict

If your marriage is on the rocks already, then youseem to be harsh words and painful exchanges.
should really pay attention here. The information in this3. Be Slow To Anger and Quick to Forgive
article could present the make or break point for you.Wow, this one is the hardest of all actions-be slow to
You probably are going through a rough patch rightanger and quick to forgive! How can this be possible
now because of things that have happened either duewhen all you want to do is to blow that fuse and
to your fault or their fault but passing the buck will notnever to forgive your spouse for hurting you so much.
help save your marriage. So, here is an insight intoWhat a lot of people do not know is that our emotions
what could be happening and the best remedy forare our worst enemies; they imprison us and can
each situation.make us very miserable even after our spouse is
1. Swallow Your Pridegone. The best thing one can do is to manage them
We are all born with a certain degree of pride and thatso that they never take control of your situation. Train
is called: self esteem. However, when pride gets biggeryourself to stay in right-thinking, peace and joy and it
to the extent of putting strain on the relationship; dumpwill be heaven on earth.
it or at best, swallow it. I have seen people struggle inAnger is a bad spirit and un-forgiveness is also a
relationships; arguing, fighting and not backing downworse spirit as it puts you in a prison cell in the
because of pride. This is fuel for fire in any marriage.presence of your spouse. Get rid of these two and
On the other hand, managing one's pride; consideringyou are on the road to a healthier marriage.
your spouse as equally relevant means you care4. If You Can't Change Your Spouse, Change Yourself
about them the same way you care about yourself.Perhaps you are frustrated right now and are even
This works wonders, especially where there has beencontemplating divorce because you have failed to get
a storm brewing in your marriage and instead of goingyour spouse to change. He could be an alcoholic,
to war, you take the initiative, swallow your pride andworkaholic or any other "holic" you could think of. You
apologize. This action alone can disarm your spousehave probably tried everything to get your spouse to
without you ever touching them.change but all in vain. You are now taking it hard and
2. Develop a Listening Earthe marriage is suffering but underneath you still love
How many times has your spouse pleaded with youthem deeply.
to just listen to what they are saying? We all chooseHey, quit trying to change your spouse, you can not be
to hear what we want to hear at different times.responsible for their choice and what you cannot
When things are going our way, we can't help hearingcontrol. You can however, change yourself and be
all the sweet things that prop up our state of mind.fully in control of the situation. Change your attitude and
However, when the situation turns around orwho knows this could be the light bulb your spouse
something goes wrong in a relationship, our hearingneeds to trigger their change.
also changes.No matter where you are at in your marriage
Suddenly all we hear are the ugliest things, thestruggles, there is always something you can do to
accusations and dirt being thrown at us. Developingsave your marriage. However, it is a choice you have
listening ear means training you to be objective at allto make as this entails a lot of work on your part. Of
times despite the situation and being able to hear whatcourse your spouse has to contribute to the process
is beneath the current. For all you know, your spousebut sometimes it takes your initial step to trigger theirs.
could be crying for help behind that tirade and what