| Both husbands and wives are sometimes guilty of | | | | weakness. You must train yourself to see the |
| comparing their spouse to another man or woman that | | | | strengths and qualities of your spouse and focus on |
| they admire, doing this can be detrimental to your | | | | those things. |
| marriage because what it shows is that you are only | | | | Only think of things that are good, admirable, virtuous, |
| focusing on your spouse's weakness and not their | | | | and exciting about your spouse. When you focus on |
| strength and what you focus on will magnify. | | | | the strengths of your spouse there will be no need to |
| By comparing your spouse to another man or woman, | | | | compare them to someone else. The fact is that the |
| you are in a way saying to your spouse that they are | | | | person that you are comparing them to will also have |
| not good enough. It is a reflection of a judgmental and | | | | their flaws, you just haven't gotten close enough to |
| critical spirit that you might posses. | | | | them to see it. |
| Comparing your spouse to someone else will make | | | | Everyone is different; we all have different capabilities |
| them feel inadequate, they will begin to feel like they | | | | and gifts that are unique to us as individuals. You |
| are not good enough, they will feel disrespected and | | | | cannot therefore compare two different people and |
| humiliated, and it can even lead to your spouse having | | | | expect them to match up. Even the most identical of |
| a low and poor self-esteem. | | | | twins have their differences. Expecting your spouse to |
| Your spouse might even begin to resent the person | | | | be like somebody else will only lead to disappointments. |
| they are being compared to if it is a mutual friend. | | | | Learn to accept and respect your spouse for who |
| They may even begin to challenge the person they | | | | and what they are. |
| are being compared to in order to prove their worth, or | | | | Don't compare your spouse to an ex-boyfriend or an |
| show that this person they are being compared to is | | | | ex-girlfriend. If your ex was so perfect why didn't you |
| not better than them. | | | | marry them instead? Surely there were qualities you |
| You must learn to see and celebrate the uniqueness | | | | saw in your spouse when you decided to commit the |
| of your spouse. You must learn to help them in the | | | | rest of your life to them. May be you need to revisit |
| area of their weaknesses but not dwell on their | | | | and remind yourself of those qualities. |