| Everyone has arguments once in a while. Married | | | | you may not get a good night's rest when you are |
| couples have arguments. Just because you have an | | | | angry, it is NOT true that your problem will get worse |
| argument (or a few) with your spouse doesn't mean | | | | overnight. |
| you're in a bad marriage. Here are some ways to | | | | Again, it goes back to needing that 'cooling off' period. |
| make up with your spouse after an argument. | | | | A time to think about things, and decide if it's even |
| You've had an argument with your spouse. Now you | | | | worth being mad about or not. When we get |
| feel bad, you are both upset. How can you calm | | | | frustrated, even the smallest thing will set us off again. |
| down? | | | | Little things can be let go. your spouse left a glass on |
| You should make yourself a spot in your home just for | | | | the table, or forgot to take out the trash. these things |
| you. let's call it your 'me space'. It can be your | | | | happen, and they can be overlooked easily. the more |
| bedroom, in the cellar, or even in the yard. just make it | | | | little things you can overlook, the less arguments you |
| someplace that makes you feel comfortable. | | | | will have. |
| Somewhere you can relax. | | | | When you have less arguments, the ones you do |
| Your spouse should have one of these spaces, too. | | | | have will be kept to a minimum. There will be less |
| Just make sure you both don't choose the same spot! | | | | anger and stress, which will be good for both of you. |
| After an argument, whether it be with your spouse or | | | | Having an argument is not the end of the world, it is |
| anyone else, you feel tense or sad. This special space | | | | just a disagreement. When you let that argument |
| will let you gather your thoughts, and let your emotions | | | | consume you, it WILL get out of control, and can be |
| cool down. After you are settled down, you can go | | | | devastating to your marriage. |
| back and discuss whatever the argument was about | | | | The argument happened for a reason, so it is good to |
| calmly, if you want to. | | | | talk about it after you have both calmed down. Be |
| There is an old wives' tale that says you should never | | | | reasonable with your spouse. Be sure to listen to their |
| go to bed angry. Some people swear by it, and others | | | | thoughts, and be sure to tell them yours (nicely). that |
| don't believe it at all. | | | | way, you can both know what the other is thinking, and |
| Sometimes married couples get mad at each other, | | | | you can meet each other half way. |
| and sometimes it lasts for a while. While it is true that | | | | |