| Life is essentially made of choices. Starting from petty | | | | and will be unhappy for ever, |
| things like "what will I have for breakfast" to quite huge | | | | 4) determine the best thing that could happen if you do |
| ones like "should I marry him/her". We obviously want | | | | not marry this person, e.g. you meet somebody so |
| to make the right choice, and so we choose one of | | | | much better for you and live happily ever after. |
| the following options: | | | | Then you take all these four possibilities and try to |
| A) Flip a coin and let the coin decide. Not being able to | | | | assess the probability of each of them. Quite a |
| or being too afraid to make the choice you just flip a | | | | complex process, you try to manage the risk and |
| coin believing that this will be your destiny. If you are | | | | make an educated decision. |
| pondering the marriage issue, this easy action will give | | | | C) Create your reality. Option A implies that there are |
| you the answer. | | | | some conditions outside yourself that decide for you. |
| B) Assess the risk. Whatever we choose we have at | | | | Option B implies that a once chosen reality never |
| least two alternatives. We can take the "scientific" | | | | changes. Option C however makes you the true |
| approach and assess the different scenarios of all the | | | | creator of your reality. Let me explain. You create |
| alternatives. So continuing with our marriage example, | | | | your reality every second with your thoughts. If you |
| you try to: | | | | believe that what will happen to you is the best thing |
| 1) determine the worst thing that could happen if you | | | | then so it will be. If you believe the contrary, then so it |
| do marry this person, e.g. the relationship could get | | | | will be. So coming back to our example, if you believe |
| abusive and ruin your life as you now know it, | | | | this person is the best thing that could happen to you - |
| 2) determine the best thing that could happen if you do | | | | then so it will be, however once you change your line |
| marry this person, e.g. your life changes into a fairy tale | | | | of thinking, also your external reality will change. If you |
| and you live happily ever after, | | | | start having doubts and believing that there is |
| 3) determine the worst thing that could happen if you | | | | someone more suited for you out there, you are in |
| do not marry this person, e.g. you will miss the only | | | | fact causing your current relationship to fall apart and |
| chance in your life for a husband/wife, grow old lonely | | | | making room for a new one. |