Marriage - I Don't Love You Anymore

Think about the title of this article for just a momentFor instance, if you are used to living by your feelings
and how corny it sounds. I don't love you anymore.and doing whatever you want then that is the lifestyle
Actually when a spouse says, "I don't love youyou have made for yourself. If you are used to
anymore" it means they don't want to love youshowing love by sharing yourself and working at being
anymore. Selfishness has taken precedent in thisa loving person in your marriage then you have made
person's life and they are simply tired of doing thingsthat your lifestyle. Your commitment level shows in
that show love, such as sacrifice, respect andyour lifestyle; it shows in what you do for your
responsibility. Because all three of these are what lovemarriage.
is!The "I don't love you anymore" attitude is based upon
There is so much of the "I don't love you anymore"feelings only, and that's all. The person who says they
between couples in marriage that marriage gurus have"don't love anymore" may actually believe it because
to come up with more and more articles and books onthey have been taught that love is a feeling. When you
"how to win your ex back" and "how to make your exfirst think you are "in love" with someone, that is only a
fall back in love with you". What kind of love are thesemixture of desire and lust. That's all it is. This is why
articles referring to? You can't just "fall out of love"two or three years later when these feelings are gone,
with your spouse or significant other if you weren'tyou believe you aren't "in love" anymore.
really loving them in the first place.If you want to save your marriage you have to "be
You shouldn't have to try and win your ex spousecommitted"! You have to "show your love" through
back if he or she belongs to you. Didn't God bless youyour commitment. It doesn't matter how you feel about
with the person you are married to? Of course He did.each other as much as what you are going to do to
Couples should be reading articles on how to bringstay married. You can live an uncommitted lifestyle for
God into their marriage so they may learn how to loveyour marriage or you can take responsibility for "your
one another with real love. What is real love? Whenpart in the marriage" and be happy with what God has
you sacrifice a part of your self for your spouse thatblessed you with. It's all up to you. You make your own
is love. When you try to understand your spouse thathappiness!
is love. When you do things that show love, evenRemember, love is not how your feel, but what you
when you don't feel like it that is love.do. Have you shown your love to your spouse today?
So you see, when all is said and done, it won't matterLove is a choice. You choose to love or not to love.
what worldly tactics you use to try and "be loved" orYou choose to take responsibility for your marriage, or
"win back love" or "love others" unless you arenot. You choose to sacrifice your happiness for the
committed to the relationship. Marriage commitment issake of your spouse, or not. You choose to love
a lifestyle and marriage non-commitment is a lifestyle.because it is what Jesus Christ has taught us to do.