| Many of the misconceptions of marriage come from | | | | when you finally see the other person as they truly |
| unrealistic expectations of either spouse. Typically of | | | | are, everyone as flaws. The key is to love them even |
| people who get married at a young age or never had | | | | with the flaws and short-comings. |
| any long-term relationships before. Living up to the | | | | Everyone shows their best side in the early parts of |
| expectations you have of your partner will be | | | | any relationship. Avoiding this misconception of |
| impossible and will eventually lead to frustration or | | | | marriage can be easy if you take things slowly and |
| anger and resentment. Identifying if you have one of | | | | don't put your potential partner on a pedestal. Cause |
| theses misconceptions of marriage will prevent you | | | | he or she will eventually fall off. This you can count on. |
| from having theses expectations of your partner. | | | | Misconception 3 - Happily Ever After |
| Misconception 1 - Hollywood Romance | | | | As most fairy tales end with a happily ever after, it |
| Hollywood romance creates the most idealistic vision | | | | belongs only in books, fantasy books in particular. Using |
| of what romance really is or isn't. The fantasy of what | | | | Cinderella as an example, where Cinderella and Prince |
| love could be is after all, what sells. Cause wouldn't it | | | | Charming end happily together into the castle at the |
| be great if marriage was as prefect as it is portrayed | | | | end of the story. Imagine what happens after the story |
| on television or like in the movies? Typical fantasy of | | | | ends. Pretty sure a glass slipper or two was thrown |
| the husband leaving a trail of rose petals to the | | | | around when one of them got upset! |
| bedroom, lighted by 100s of candles surrounding the | | | | Marriage is about sharing the good times and conflicts |
| room. The reality is this fantasy rarely or never | | | | life throws at us. So accepting that there might not in a |
| happens and sometimes the guy doesn't get the girl in | | | | happy ending in store for your marriage or relationship. |
| the end. | | | | So accept you aren't going to agree on everything, but |
| Real marriage doesn't have endless stream of | | | | respect when your spouse disagrees with you. Being |
| romantic settings and trips with no drama at all. But | | | | mature enough to recognize and appreciate you are |
| doesn't mean your marriage as to be devoid of any | | | | separate identities with different outlooks on life. |
| romance or fun. Believing the Hollywood idea of | | | | Never let your problems consume you and your |
| romance and happily ever after will only lead to | | | | marriage. Check if you have one of theses |
| problems with your marriage. | | | | conceptions to see if you need to change your |
| Misconception 2 - Perfect Partner | | | | expectations to be aligned with reality. Problems will |
| One day you might come to realize that the person | | | | eventually subside if you work at it.If things don't |
| you married has flaws! Especially when people are | | | | improve you may need to consider other options. But |
| quick to marry and not take the time to get to really | | | | remember you are not alone when tackling your |
| know each other before they say their "I do's" are | | | | marriage problems, talk to your partner or maybe |
| particularly vulnerable. It can be a brutal wake-up call | | | | consider a marriage counselor. |