| Are you sitting there worrying, thinking to yourself "my | | | | anyways, but I was lucky enough to be so stubborn |
| marriage is falling apart, what can I do about it?" If so | | | | that I wasn't going to let her indifference (or what I |
| I'm so sorry because that's a terrible awful place to be. | | | | found out later to be lack of strength to try anymore |
| I know because I was right there as well. I had a bad | | | | (couldn't blame her for that)) stop me. |
| marriage for the better (for lack of a better term) part | | | | Of course everywhere I turned, every marriage |
| of 6 years, and it was the most stressful thing in the | | | | counselor I tried said that it was hopeless if she wasn't |
| world to go through. | | | | going to try as well. I searched everywhere and only |
| The fact was that I loved my wife, and knew that she | | | | found one person who had instruction on fixing my |
| loved me, but we just couldn't seem to put the pieces | | | | failing marriage, even it was just me trying to fix it. |
| together and figure out what to do. We couldn't figure | | | | One of the things I learned to do was to learn to |
| out how to get a long the way we did when we first | | | | concentrate on the dynamic of our marriage, and our |
| met. | | | | places as individuals as well as our places as a unity. |
| In essence the whole dynamic of the marriage had | | | | I also stopped concentrating on all that I thought was |
| changed, and we weren't a team anymore like we | | | | bad, and constantly bringing that stuff up, when we |
| always said we would remain, we were almost | | | | were finally getting along, and began actually enjoying |
| enemies. It shocked me how quickly that could happen. | | | | the good times. |
| But as I was sitting there thinking my marriage is falling | | | | Along with those things, and some other very specific |
| apart, I wasn't about to go down without a fight. I was | | | | things I learned, instead of saying my marriage is falling |
| determined to fix it, whether my wife wanted to or not. | | | | apart, I began to think "Wow, my marriage is actually |
| Sounds weird right? Both parties are supposed to | | | | better than ever. |
| work on it together. That's what you're always told | | | | |