| Any couple has problems now and again and they | | | | There is one thing some wise person taught at some |
| usually have some process, recognized or not, that | | | | marriage seminar some where and it was this, when |
| they go through till they get to the other side. Clouds | | | | your having trouble take some time during each and |
| blow away skies turn blue and life sails smoothly on till | | | | play a little movie in your head. In the movie see your |
| the next row. It could be easier to do it if both parties | | | | mate responding to you in the way that you want him |
| had some specific skill set for communicating. | | | | her to. One lady had a husband that keep coming |
| It may be helpful to simply change how you talk to | | | | home later and later till he quite coming home at all. |
| your mate. When talking about keeping your | | | | She started visualizing him in the overstuffed chair in |
| relationship from breaking up you need to think about | | | | the living room watching t.v. with her and visualizing |
| whether you complain to much. If you crab continually | | | | them being happy together. A funny thing happened, |
| about every manner of thing you probably are a | | | | she started doing some little things differently. When he |
| person who is not happy unless they are complaining | | | | did come home she welcomed him and made him feel |
| about something. Look at your behavior start noticing | | | | like he was special, where she had been complaining |
| the words that come tumbling out of your mouth. Ask | | | | that he should be thus and so she no longer did. There |
| your self what is more important, the dirty laundry or | | | | other behaviors that changed and it wasn't many |
| our happiness? OUR happiness because if you learn | | | | weeks later that she was surprised by a sudden |
| to let the little things go you will both be happier. Is his | | | | realization that, that evening, every thing was just as |
| muddy boots in the hall more important than smiles and | | | | she had visualized it being. |
| laughter? Is dinner being late or (your partner being late | | | | So Three Points, and they apply equally to him and her |
| for dinner) more important then your tranquility. | | | | okay. |
| The old saying, "If momma's happy everyone's, happy | | | | 1. Stop complaining. |
| if momma's not happy, ain't nobody happy" is as | | | | 2. What is more important. |
| relevant today as it was back when first uttered by | | | | 3. Visualize a positive outcome. |
| Adam in the garden. | | | | |