Teach your Kids to be Good Listeners

Listening is a valuable skill. The latest studies revealcontact, and that he is calm and focussed upon you.
that listening is a very large part of school learning and. Keep your communication clear, not garbled, so you
is one of our primary means of interacting with othercan be easily understood. A parent who gives out
people on a personal basis. It is estimated thatmixed, often conflicting messages, causes confusion
between 50 and 75 percent of students’which may prompt the child to ‘switch off’
classroom time is spent listening to the teacher, orbecause it takes too much effort to try to understand.
other students, or to audio media.. When you tell your child to do something, ask him to
Parents set a powerful example of good or poorrepeat your instructions.
communication. Parents who listen to their children with. Regularly read out loud to your child and then talk with
interest, intention and patience set a good example.him in a conversation about what you have read.
The child who is able to listen picks things up andRemember, communication is the most significant part
learns quicker than others. In class the child who doesof human interaction, andpeople who are good
not listen gets things wrong, makes silly mistakes, andlisteners are able to discern and take in everything
often falls behind.around them.
So, how can we as parents help our children toPeople who are good listeners are often good at
become good listeners? Here are a few pointers.building rapport with others, avaluable skill for success,
. Cut out the ‘noise’ in your home. Byboth in relationships and in careers. It’s amazing
‘noise’ I mean all the distractions that may be,howmany people do not really listen when we are
and often are, present in many homes – TV,speaking to them, but it’s clear to uswhen
computers, music. Such noise only serves to hindersomebody is making the effort to listen – and these
good communication.people stand out from therest. So let’s give our
. Teach your child to maintain eye contact when talkingchildren a head-start, and help them to develop a
or listening to you.valuable skill.
. Before speaking to him, make sure you make eye