The Twelve Things Your Priest Won't Tell You About Marriage

Congratulations on one of the happiest days of yourwas and ever will be. When she's sick, do you
lives. You're in love, you're committed and will spendabandon her? When he loses his job, do you ask for a
the rest of your lives together - you're getting married.divorce? Love is easy when everything is going well.
All engaged couples want to start their new life withBut the real test is whether you can stand up to the
the best possible help they can find. An excellentenormous stress of a sick child crying in the middle of
marriage involves advice from those who know howthe night, or a dying parent who leaves behind a
to make it happen as well as using your own commondamaged relationship with you. Can you hold tight, even
sense. You know what they say, it's always best toin the middle of chaos, and let your love grow
get sound advice from the experts. So you go to thestronger? You didn't get married to run at the first sign
doctor to learn how to stay healthy. You go toof stress. You signed up for this holy union to see
grandma and grandpa who have been married for 50each other through the hard times as well as the good.
years to learn how to stay married. You go to yourStand strong is your motto.
priest to learn how to connect with God. But wouldVIRGO: It is a daily process to heal that which is inside
you go to your priest to learn the principals ofyou that keeps you from living the life you want. Help
personality through astrology? No, he's not going to telleach other do away with feelings of not enough.
you the benefits to be found in astrology. Would youMarriage is a commitment of time and energy on a
go to your misogynist Uncle Dave or yourdaily basis. It is one thing to overanalyze a problem, and
five-times-divorced Aunt Jody for marriage advice?another to evaluate it and take quick corrective action.
Oh, no. You'd go where the answers are.In this marriage you will both be learning that it takes
You can supplement your current wisdom with newmore than an "I'm sorry" to heal a wound. It takes
and helpful tools before you ever walk down the aisleaction and a willingness not to keep repeating the
by better understanding the personality of your mate.same behavior and expecting different results. You will
Astrology is not a prediction of where your life is going.find that not only are you lovers, but helpmates to
Instead, it is a description of the twelve basiceach other. Avoid clutter build up in your home and
personalities of all people. Think of it as one more toolyour marriage.
to help you make the best marriage possible. It's betterLIBRA: A partnership is a delicate balancing act,
to begin married life with awareness than to berequiring both willingness and finesse. Be gracious to
blind-sided down the road later.each other by saying please and thank you often.
When the wedding is over, the presents tucked wayWhile some Libra's will search for peace at any price,
for later Regifting, and you've settled into a happy,the ultimate price will be a loss of self. Yours is a
day-to-day marriage, you may find your beautiful pinkmarriage where the goal is to truly become one
wedding cloud occasionally becomes transparent withwithout sacrificing your individuality. This is best done by
petty annoyances. Welcome to real life. But don't runhaving closeness and things in common you do
away. What if you had within your grasp the greatesttogether, while also having things you do apart with
secrets to human understanding and behavior thatfamily or friends. The true test of whether you
would keep your marriage together? Wouldn't youmarriage is making progress is to ask yourselves, "Can
want to learn more? You can, because humanisticwe compromise our opinions (not values) and still say I
astrology is about to show you how.love you?" Help each other. Work together.
First, know that there are diamonds found in everySCORPIO: No matter where you go, there you are, so
astrological sign, as well as unformed pieces of coal.bring the best possible person to the altar that you can
Don't give up. We all share a little of both.muster. It must have been a Scorpio who coined the
Each person comes into a marriage as both a studentphrase, excess baggage, because you cannot start
and a teacher. The lessons of your astrological sign willfresh without learning to forgive, forget and move on
help you achieve both. As you get to know thefrom your history. When you fall in love, you're in for
personality, challenges & blessings of your husband orthe long haul, but if you haven't worked through your
wife, you will know in your heart that you cameprevious pains, you can end up taking your frustration
together to help each other learn the life lessons ofout on your partner. It isn't fair, healthy or wise. You will
your souls. If it's good for the soul, it's good for thefind in this marriage that both of you will go undergo
marriage. Years down the road, we guarantee, youmajor healings in your emotions, thoughts, spirits and
won't be saying, "Oh WHY did I marry this Taurus?,"bodies. For you, waking up beside your sweetie every
for example. Instead you will know going into themorning is a blessing.
marriage what the purpose of your union was.SAGITTARIUS: Trouble between couples often
By the way, there is no truth in the belief that certaincomes from nit picking things apart, but you have the
astrological signs are incompatible. As long as twogift of seeing the big picture and not getting lost in the
people are willing to work on strengthening theirdetails. Decide to write your own vows & frame them
marriage, everyone is compatible.so that when trouble arises, you can always go back
Check both your signs below. Each of the lessons willand refresh your memories as to the REAL reason
work together in forming a loving, caring andyou got married. Yes we've got faults and yes we
long-lasting marriage.can clear them up. To be happy is your ultimate goal in
ARIES: Encourage each other to get your needs met.marriage and to spread joy insures a happy outcome.
If you're in the mood for a little hanky-panky, don't justGet to know what things you can do or say that will
assume your beloved knows. Ask for what you want,light up your darling's face and then do them. A
how you want it, when you want it and where. Don'tscented bubble bath? A trip to Europe? A love note
wait for the other one, initiate the action needed tofrom you left in the car?
make each of you happy. It's a win/win combination.CAPRICORN: Your goal is to bring stability to your
You both get your needs met and no one is left feelingmarriage. Let others have their scream fests and
unloved. Anger serves no useful purpose when youinsecurities, because your idea of a happy marriage is
have left all the work to your partner. Of course theyto have a secure job, a nice home and dependable
will get mad. By jointly contributing ideas, suggestionsloving. Chances are good that you will fall in love with
and actions, the two of you will avoid boredom andsomeone who has a wilder side than you, but that is
build a long and exciting marriage.only so life can afford you the opportunity to not let
TAURUS: Clear up any previous financialdepression or strictness undermine your marriage.
responsibilities before marriage, because this is a unionYou're probably tired of hearing people tell you to
where learning to manage money will be important.lighten up, but in the midst of a stock market crash,
One of the biggest deal breakers in any marriage isyou'll be sitting warm & tidy. Your middle name is
fighting over money. Don't assume that everything willresponsibility & come hell or high water, you will not let
work itself out down the road and think that as long asthose you love do without.
you love each other, money is the least of yourAQUARIUS: Your flair for organization should not take
worries. Plan a budget before the wedding, both forprecedence over your partner's need for your time.
the nuptials as well as everyday life. Make yourYou can get lost in great projects, leaving your
financial decisions together. Will you maintain a savingssweetheart feeling left out. Your goals can be clear to
account? Where will you invest your extra money?you and a mystery to others. Don't think less of them
How much will you spend every year on vacations?for not having your insight. Learn patience and
How much weekly pocket money do each of yourecognize the limitations of others. Your ability to love
have? And when it comes to paying the monthly bills,completely is never in doubt but it will help the marriage
do it together.to let others take over the decision making
GEMINI: One of the greatest gifts you can give eachresponsibilities once in a while. Your spouse may want
other is to listen as much as you speak. When youto step back and watch you blossom whereas you
disagree, remember that sarcasm, ridicule andmay want him or her to be part of your flower. A little
name-calling have no place in your happy marriage.independence goes a long way.
Agree to eliminate violent communication. Verbal abusePISCES: There is nothing attractive in bringing the
has no place in a successful marriage. Every day it isenergy of "I am a victim" to the marriage. Your
just as easy to say something pleasant, orpartnership will be learning the lessons of setting
complimentary as it is to say something mean-spirited.healthy boundaries. For instance, do you need private
One of the nicest things each of you can do for thetime in the bathroom while the other one walks in and
other is to exchange thoughts and ideas. What if... or Iout at will? Do you stand up for yourself when
wonder... will have you engaged in lots of interestingsomething is not acceptable? Learning to say no and
talks and help keep you both invested in the successhonoring that in others will be a great challenge, but
of your marriage.your generous caring nature can help the both of you
CANCER: Family is not necessarily biological. Marriagescome through unscathed. Few couples can build a
involving a Cancer often include, adoption, blendedstrong marriage without a spiritual center, but it is
families or helping extended family members.especially impossible for you, dear Pisces, to have no
Welcome the fact that your ability to function in thesense of purpose or reason. Pray & give thanks
outer world always begin at home. Here you will learntogether.
the basic values of life which will help you makeSave this article on the refrigerator for future
significant contributions to your marriage, community,reference. Both of you have come together in
workplace and the world. If what you learned at homemarriage for the express purpose of creating a life
about marriage was dysfunctional, begin again andthat will allow your souls to flourish. Astrology gives
make the kind of life you want. Just because theyou an easy starting point to find the greatest
family has always done it "this way" does not meanhappiness you have ever known. The stars in the
you must continue. Make a family you love to comeeyes of your lover are only enhanced by the stars in
home to.the constellations in the nighttime skies. God bless you
LEO: You're here to learn that love is all there is, everboth.