Where to Get the Best Marriage Advice

From the moment you got engaged you probablythose values are not important to you then the advice
noticed that just about everyone had some marriageyou receive might not mean that much to you.
advice to offer. Often, the advice you got from oneWhat About Family?
person would conflict with the advice you got fromMany people turn to friends and family members for
someone else.marriage advice. While it might be a great source of
So how do you know where to get the best marriageadvice (depending on your family), doing this also has
advice? Keep reading for some tips.the potential to cause more problems.
Don't Ask Liz TaylorIf possible, try to find the advice that you need in a
It is always surprising when a reasonably intelligent manway that does not require that you share your
or woman accepts marriage advice from a personproblems with friends for family members. This has
who has been divorced several times.backfired more than once, and it really is just not worth
Do you ask someone who is overweight for diet tips?the potential hassle.
Do you ask someone who just filed for bankruptcy forMarriage Counselor
financial advice? Instead of taking advice fromPerhaps you think that marriage counseling is only for
someone who has tried and failed, seek out peoplethose who are having very serious trouble in the
who have been successful in their marriages.relationships. The truth is that some go to marriage
That does not mean that someone who was divorcedcounseling as sort of preventive maintenance. You can
has no good advice to give, but if it is between himget advice from a professional who has no vested
and the couple that has been together for 50 years,interest in taking one side or the other.
whose marriage advice would you rather take?As an alternative to counseling, there are also at-home
Spiritual Leadersmarriage help programs. These books and CDs
If religion is an important part of your life, then seekingdispense advice in a non-threatening way at a fraction
marriage advice from a religious leader makes a lot ofof the cost of traditional counseling.
sense. He or she will be able to offer advice that hasWhere ever you choose to seek marriage advice,
been filtered through the beliefs and values of yourkeep in mind that you must take the advice for what it
religion.is: one person's opinion. Consider the advice as it
In many cases, this can make issues much more blackapplies specifically to your situation. Not every bit of
and white, making it easier to find a resolution.advice you get will be right for you. Part of learning to
On the other hand, if you are not very religious, it mighthave a healthy relationship is learning to separate the
not make sense to seek your counsel here. A religiousgood from the bad.
leader is not going to set aside his values for you. If