| Did you know that ANY marriage--and I do mean | | | | 3) Use "I feel" instead of "You make me!" Yes, we all |
| ANY--can be saved? | | | | want to express our feelings to each other. And |
| And that YOUR marriage can become a blessed, | | | | that's okay! But do it the right way--communication is |
| fruitful experience, on top of that? | | | | the make-or-break key to any good marriage. |
| I've heard all kinds of amazing stories of marriages that | | | | So instead of telling a person who nags, "You're driving |
| seemed destined for the dreaded 'D' word (you know, | | | | me nuts! I can't stand you!", try, "When you say ___ |
| DIVORCE) being saved miraculously. Your marriage | | | | all the time, it makes me feel hurt." Your partner will |
| can be saved in the same way. | | | | be WAY more open to change when you phrase it in |
| For example, I know of a woman whose husband left | | | | a non-threatening, but at the same time clear, format. |
| her for 25 YEARS, and through an awesome miracle | | | | 4) Know the "Marriage Killers!" These are the common |
| (that can only be attributed to commitment and | | | | problems and situations that have been known to |
| prayer!), saw him come back, and subsequently | | | | cause divorce. I can't list them all here (though you |
| enjoyed some of the happiest 7 years of their lives | | | | can probably guess some of them), but for more, I |
| before he passed away. | | | | highly suggest checking out the Save Your Marriage |
| Now, of course you don't want to see EITHER spouse | | | | Today course. |
| in your marriage leave for 25 years! With the right | | | | Remember, any marriage CAN be fixed. It just takes |
| advice--and sacrifices from BOTH sides--you don't | | | | COMMITMENT, and of course wisdom in knowing |
| even have to worry about either leaving for a month. | | | | what works, and what to avoid (remember the |
| Or if one of you already has left, you can still save | | | | boundaries!!!). |
| your marriage. It really is possible. | | | | I hope you got something out of this, and can renew |
| Here are 4 great tips I learned from a great course | | | | your commitment to making marriage work. I'll |
| called Save Your Marriage Today. | | | | leave you with one last tip, that is ESSENTIAL for any |
| 1) Make a commitment that divorce is NOT an option! | | | | marriage to work: |
| This is something that has really helped my wife and | | | | 5) ALWAYS BE WILLING TO FORGIVE! Yes, people |
| me in our marriage. When the 'D' word is removed | | | | do awful things in marriage, from cheating, to physical |
| as a threat, and is NOT openly discussed as a | | | | and verbal abuse, to even deserting his or her |
| convenient option, then you both know you're | | | | partner. But if you're commited to each other, then |
| committed to each other. Knowing there is a | | | | you MUST be willing to forgive. I'm not saying it's |
| commitment to working things out is a fantastic way | | | | easy, but divorce is essentially saying that what |
| to making that holy commitment working out! | | | | someone has done is unforgivable. If you can't |
| 2) Define Boundaries! Boundaries are essential in terms | | | | forgive, you can't commit. And without commitment, |
| of communication, as well. Make sure you set your | | | | there's just no way your marriage can be saved. |
| limits as to what can and cannot be talked about. If | | | | So, are you committed to FORGIVE your spouse for |
| there is a topic that ALWAYS drives you both to | | | | what he or she has done, and move on in life so that |
| fighting, such as the husband playing golf on Sundays, | | | | you can experience love and romance once again? |
| learn when and when not to talk about it. AVOID | | | | If you are, then I try believe you can save your |
| UNNECESSARY FIGHTING!!! | | | | marriage today! |