| In previous articles on Internet dating,
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| | speed and is interesting and stimulating,
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| I outlined what you should do when
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| | then by all means, have a full-fledged
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| writing your personal ad, how to exchange
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| | dialogue with her. In other words, don't
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| e-mails with a woman who has replied to
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| | hold back. You may even try to close the
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| your ad, how to conduct an effective IM
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| | deal right there and ask her out on a
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| (Instant Messaging) conversation and what
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| | date.
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| to do to land a first date.
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| | But if you're in the early stages where
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| In this article, I'm shifting gears. I'm
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| | you're still in the process of getting to
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| going to tell you about the Six Don'ts of
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| | know each other, then I suggest keeping
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| Internet dating.
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| | your interactions to a minimum.
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| These are things you should never do when
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| | What to do: I know it's difficult,
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| it comes to picking up women online,
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| | especially if the woman is hot, but you
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| regardless of how much coffee you drank.
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| | have to be disciplined. Limit yourself to
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| 1- When conversing through e-mail, don't
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| | two e-mails per day, and keep streaming
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| write your life story
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| | IM conversations to no longer than 15
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| Nothing turns off a woman more than a man
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| | minutes. If the dialogue exceeds this
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| who can't shut up. If you don't believe
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| | time, then excuse yourself and end the
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| me, the next time you're corresponding
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| | conversation, saying that you have some
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| with a woman you've met online, write a
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| | things to take care of -- and don't go
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| one-page e-mail about what you like to do
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| | into detail about it.
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| on weekends, and see what kind of
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| | By doing this, you'll remain mysterious,
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| response you get. Nine times out of 10, a
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| | something that turns most women on.
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| woman won't even reply to you. She'll
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| | 5- Don't spread yourself too thin
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| simply delete your e-mail and move on to
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| | One of the better problems to have with
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| the next guy. Why is that?
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| | Internet dating is corresponding with too
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| First, women usually perceive a
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| | many women.
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| long-winded man as needy. And most women
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| | Yeah, I know exactly what you're
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| want a challenge. Needy men aren't
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| | thinking: What man doesn't want to be
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| challenging. Second, quite frankly, women
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| | chased by dozens of beautiful women? But
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| want to do all of the talking. And they
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| | truth be told, having an effective
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| want you to listen.
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| | personal ad that generates a lot of
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| What to do: Keep all your e-mail replies
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| | responses can backfire on you if you're
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| short (i.e. no longer than three
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| | not careful.
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| sentences). The first two sentences
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| | For instance, in the past month, I've
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| should be used for answering a question
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| | received 56 responses to my personal ad.
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| (or questions) she may have asked, and
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| | That's a ton of women to e-mail. In fact,
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| the last sentence should be reserved for
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| | it's too many. Way too many.
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| asking her a question. Remember:
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| | If you try to reply to every single woman
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| Questions keep the 'dialogue' moving, and
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| | who responds to your ad, you'll soon find
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| give her the sense that you are
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| | yourself spending your days writing
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| thoughtful and interested.
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| | e-mail. More importantly, you'll start
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| 2- Don't initiate sexual talk
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| | forgetting what you've said and to whom.
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| Many women think men have nothing but sex
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| | I can't tell you how many times I've been
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| on brain. Though there is some truth to
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| | embarrassed because I asked a woman the
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| this statement, you'll get further in the
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| | same question four or five times.
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| game by not hinting at or talking about
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| | What to do: Though I encourage you to be
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| sex.
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| | polite, you may find yourself physically
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| Besides, in this politically correct
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| | unable to reply to every woman who has
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| world, who wants to take the chance of
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| | responded to your ad. In fact, I
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| offending women with sex talk, especially
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| | recommend that you don't reply to every
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| if you don't know them well?
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| | woman who responds to your personal ad.
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| What to do: Just don't do it. In fact,
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| | Instead, if you're getting dozens of
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| you'd be surprised by how many women will
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| | responses each week, only reply to the
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| actually initiate a conversation about
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| | women you wish to pursue further.
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| sex. When a woman initiates talk about
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| | Furthermore, if these leads don't work
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| sex, consider that a green light, though
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| | out for you, then you can always go back
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| I suggest that your comments be very well
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| | to the other women you didn't reply to
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| thought out. Besides, if you're looking
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| | originally.
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| for aggressive sexual dialogue with a
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| | 6- Don't appear too eager to go on a date
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| woman, there are plenty of 'adult'
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| | Unless a woman immediately asks to meet
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| oriented personal sites that cater to
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| | you (and some will), a rule of thumb
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| that.
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| | about asking a woman for a date is to
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| 3- Don't lie
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| | wait at least a week after the initial
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| It's a known fact that a significant
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| | contact before asking her out.
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| percentage of men and women lie about
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| | If you ask her out too soon, when she's
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| themselves, whether it's about marital
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| | not ready and comfortable, she'll
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| status, income, education level or
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| | disappear.
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| occupation, when it comes to creating an
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| | If you wait, one of the things that will
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| online profile of themselves.
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| | go through her mind is, why isn't this
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| I'm a true believer that the lies will
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| | guy asking me out?
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| catch up with you -- sooner rather than
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| | When that happens, you'll instantly
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| later. And if you find a woman who is
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| | become more attractive to her.
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| really interested in you, and you've lied
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| | What to do: Let her make the first move.
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| to her, it's just a matter of time before
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| | If she's the kind of woman who wants to
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| she finds out the truth.
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| | be pursued, she might be a high
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| What to do: If you think your income is
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| | maintenance princess, and that's the last
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| too low, or if your occupation isn't
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| | thing you want to deal with.
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| exactly exciting, simply 'up-sell' other
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| | Play it safe, play it cool
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| qualities about yourself. Focus on the
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| | Now, we're all a bunch of macho men, but
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| good instead. Never lie to impress a
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| | you can never be too safe. The last thing
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| woman. Ever.
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| | you want is to be involved in a real-life
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| 4- Don't send too many e-mail or IM
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| | fatal attraction.
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| messages
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| | So in addition to these six 'don'ts,' I
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| Again, you don't want to appear needy.
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| | also advise against handing out your
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| One way to appear needy is by sending a
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| | telephone number or your address. Take
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| woman three or four e-mail or IM messages
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| | your time to get to know the woman before
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| a day.
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| | revealing your personal information.
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| Of course, if the e-mail or IM
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| | Now go score!
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| conversation is moving along at breakneck
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