| We've all had those moments where we were with | | | | closely, most likely at that point she already wants to |
| someone we liked and somewhere on the back of | | | | kiss you anyway. If she withdraws or acts weirded |
| our mind we kept wondering how do we kiss that | | | | out, relax for a bit and continue building comfort with |
| person? Do we ask them? Do we just go for the | | | | her. Resume normal conversation and try again later. |
| kiss? Do we wait? If so, how long? These questions | | | | For girls: Usually girls are viewed as the ones who are |
| can be quite discouraging due to not knowing exactly | | | | kissed, rather than the ones that kiss. It's really a |
| what to do next to bring yourself closer to that special | | | | matter of personal preference and personal set of |
| someone. There are, however, a few key steps and | | | | beliefs as to how you want to go about this. Most |
| signs that we can watch out for and do to increase | | | | guys are very shy about kissing a girl for the first time, |
| the probability of bringing ourselves closer to that | | | | so you might try to make him feel comfortable by |
| special someone. For guys: When you're out with a girl | | | | accepting his touch or even initiating non-intrusive |
| on a date and you and her walking around or just | | | | touching yourself, such as holding his hand or hugging |
| talking, you have to understand that you're the one | | | | him and being close to him. If he feels like you're |
| who has to make a move! Girls are told by society | | | | accepting him and enjoy his company and being close |
| that they have to be passive and receptive (not as | | | | to him, he'll most likely go for the kiss. If you want to |
| much after shows such as Sex and the City). Thus, | | | | kiss him, it's going to be rather tricky, since some guys |
| she is expecting you to take charge in escalating the | | | | might feel you're too aggressive to hang out with. If |
| touching that will eventually lead to a kiss. When you're | | | | he's super shy, you can simply tell him you want to kiss |
| out with her, be the first one to take her hand! Taking | | | | him, and let him kiss you. This way you preserve his |
| her hand is the first step towards bringing yourself | | | | male ego and still get kissed :) For both: Kissing should |
| closer to her. If she's comfortable, you can escalate | | | | be light and bring pleasure to both partners. Don't rush |
| non-intrusive touching a little later, such as touching her | | | | too fast and start shoving your tongue down his or her |
| shoulders or hugging her. As you progress doing this | | | | throat. Just relax your tongue and softly touch your |
| and watch her grow more and more comfortable with | | | | partner's lips and tongue. Just barely touching, almost |
| your touch, you have much better chance of kissing | | | | sliding. The kiss should feel light, yet passionate. As two |
| her successfully, rather than just going for the kiss out | | | | of you get comfortable kissing, you can progress to |
| of the blue. When you built this kind of touching | | | | more aggressive and deep kind of kissing, such as |
| comfort, get her and yourself into some sort location | | | | French kissing. French kissing is essentially the kind of |
| where two of you could either sit or stand and talk | | | | kiss where there is lots of tongue and sucking action. |
| comfortably. As two of you talk, start stroking her hair | | | | Conclusion: Just let if flow and let it come to you |
| softly and look into her eyes. If you feel that she's | | | | naturally. Build touch comfort over time and when the |
| comfortable with that, move in closer and closer. If she | | | | time is right, try to move closer to your partner so that |
| doesn't withdraw, go for the kiss, since if she's | | | | the kiss can naturally happen. Visit Kissing tips, advice |
| comfortable with you touching her hair and standing so | | | | for more information. |