| We've all had those moments where we were | | | | point she already wants to kiss you anyway. |
| with someone we liked and somewhere on the | | | | If she withdraws or acts weirded out, relax |
| back of our mind we kept wondering how do we | | | | for a bit and continue building comfort with |
| kiss that person? Do we ask them? Do we just | | | | her. Resume normal conversation and try again |
| go for the kiss? Do we wait? If so, how long? | | | | later. For girls: Usually girls are viewed as |
| These questions can be quite discouraging due | | | | the ones who are kissed, rather than the ones |
| to not knowing exactly what to do next to | | | | that kiss. It's really a matter of personal |
| bring yourself closer to that special | | | | preference and personal set of beliefs as to |
| someone. There are, however, a few key steps | | | | how you want to go about this. Most guys are |
| and signs that we can watch out for and do to | | | | very shy about kissing a girl for the first |
| increase the probability of bringing | | | | time, so you might try to make him feel |
| ourselves closer to that special someone. For | | | | comfortable by accepting his touch or even |
| guys: When you're out with a girl on a date | | | | initiating non-intrusive touching yourself, |
| and you and her walking around or just | | | | such as holding his hand or hugging him and |
| talking, you have to understand that you're | | | | being close to him. If he feels like you're |
| the one who has to make a move! Girls are | | | | accepting him and enjoy his company and being |
| told by society that they have to be passive | | | | close to him, he'll most likely go for the |
| and receptive (not as much after shows such | | | | kiss. If you want to kiss him, it's going to |
| as Sex and the City). Thus, she is expecting | | | | be rather tricky, since some guys might feel |
| you to take charge in escalating the touching | | | | you're too aggressive to hang out with. If |
| that will eventually lead to a kiss. When | | | | he's super shy, you can simply tell him you |
| you're out with her, be the first one to take | | | | want to kiss him, and let him kiss you. This |
| her hand! Taking her hand is the first step | | | | way you preserve his male ego and still get |
| towards bringing yourself closer to her. If | | | | kissed :) For both: Kissing should be light |
| she's comfortable, you can escalate | | | | and bring pleasure to both partners. Don't |
| non-intrusive touching a little later, such | | | | rush too fast and start shoving your tongue |
| as touching her shoulders or hugging her. As | | | | down his or her throat. Just relax your |
| you progress doing this and watch her grow | | | | tongue and softly touch your partner's lips |
| more and more comfortable with your touch, | | | | and tongue. Just barely touching, almost |
| you have much better chance of kissing her | | | | sliding. The kiss should feel light, yet |
| successfully, rather than just going for the | | | | passionate. As two of you get comfortable |
| kiss out of the blue. When you built this | | | | kissing, you can progress to more aggressive |
| kind of touching comfort, get her and | | | | and deep kind of kissing, such as French |
| yourself into some sort location where two of | | | | kissing. French kissing is essentially the |
| you could either sit or stand and talk | | | | kind of kiss where there is lots of tongue |
| comfortably. As two of you talk, start | | | | and sucking action. Conclusion: Just let if |
| stroking her hair softly and look into her | | | | flow and let it come to you naturally. Build |
| eyes. If you feel that she's comfortable with | | | | touch comfort over time and when the time is |
| that, move in closer and closer. If she | | | | right, try to move closer to your partner so |
| doesn't withdraw, go for the kiss, since if | | | | that the kiss can naturally happen. Visit |
| she's comfortable with you touching her hair | | | | Kissing tips, advice for more information. |
| and standing so closely, most likely at that | | | | |