| Dating in today's world has changed | | | | little embarrassment in answering |
| dramatically in the last half century. | | | | questions about one's past sexual |
| The subject of sex, and even the act | | | | experience, one's likes or dislikes, or |
| itself, has become more recognized as an | | | | even one's level of sexual expertise. |
| acceptable part of a date in today's | | | | Questions of this nature are neither |
| world. In the 1950's and early 1960's | | | | embarrassing to the participants, nor, |
| the subject of sex was rarely discussed | | | | thought of to be intruding upon one's |
| or considered in such an open manner, on | | | | personal and private business. In fact, |
| a date, as it is today. This is not to | | | | if the subject of sex isn't brought up, |
| say that sex, or the subject of sex, has | | | | the dater is often thought of as boring |
| never made an 'appearance' on a date. | | | | or inexperienced, rather than respectful |
| On the contrary, sex, on many occasions, | | | | of one's privacy. Even more disturbing |
| has indeed 'inserted' itself into a | | | | is the number of first time daters that |
| date. The difference between then and | | | | engage in sex after knowing one another |
| now is that those occurrences were the | | | | for mere hours. Many guys come right |
| exception, rather than the rule.For the | | | | out and ask their date if they have ever |
| broad majority of daters in those times, | | | | had a 'one night stand', and/or if they |
| the subject of sex was kept in the | | | | would be interested in having a 'one |
| background. Sex was the unspoken of | | | | night stand'. Few girls are insulted by |
| 'elephant' in the room. As one might | | | | this line of questioning, and answer as |
| expect, in a situation where two healthy | | | | if they were at a job interview. Worse |
| young members of the opposite sex are | | | | still, some girls consider the request, |
| sharing close quarters, there was always | | | | and some even agree to it. When it comes |
| an undercurrent of sexual electricity in | | | | to sex, it seems as though the thought |
| the air. It just was not openly, or | | | | process of some of these young women has |
| crassly, acknowledged by the dating | | | | become slightly warped. Point in fact, |
| couple. Most of the dates back then, | | | | an increasing number of young women |
| followed along similar lines. During a | | | | today insist that a certain type of sex, |
| date, a guy could make suggestive jokes | | | | which I will not describe here, is not, |
| and/or comments, and sometimes, | | | | in fact, sex. They say sex only occurs |
| playfully hug and grab the girl, but he | | | | when two people lay together and have |
| knew where to draw the line - and had | | | | sexual intercourse. They say that any |
| enough class not to cross it. A girl | | | | other sex act isn't a sex act at all, |
| flirted and looked knowingly at her | | | | and such acts are no worse than kissing. |
| date, and depending on the | | | | With this type of thinking, it's plain |
| circumstances, might allow a certain | | | | to see how easy it is for unscrupulous |
| degree of superficial physical contact. | | | | males to exploit these naive and |
| Still, she wouldn't go so far as to put | | | | ill-informed females. The level of |
| herself into a compromising situation | | | | self-respect and self-control, in many |
| that she couldn't get out of. Most | | | | of today's dating couples, seems to have |
| dates culminated in a 'good night kiss'. | | | | declined in direct ratio to the increase |
| Some went further, and included 'heavy | | | | of their unabashed and unbridled lust. |
| petting', which included tongue kissing, | | | | It would be wise, for the daters of |
| fondling, etc. - but no 'skin' came out | | | | today, to keep in mind that while it |
| into the open. Finally, a smaller group | | | | cannot be denied that having sex is a |
| included those who went 'all the way'; | | | | pleasurable experience, it can also be a |
| but as previously mentioned, this group | | | | costly one. The act of sex carries |
| was the exception, rather than the rule. | | | | consequences and responsibilities that |
| It was rare that a dating couple would | | | | are frequently underestimated, and often |
| have sex during the early stages of | | | | overlooked. Pregnancy, sexually |
| 'courtship'. While there is no question | | | | transmitted diseases, family crisis, and |
| that sex was always in the background of | | | | a loss of standing in one's community |
| a date, the daters had enough | | | | are just some of the consequences of an |
| self-restraint, or, self-respect, to | | | | 'uncontrolled libido'. Sexual choices |
| prevent it from coming to the fore. In | | | | made by daters must be fashioned with |
| today's world of dating, sex has taken a | | | | foresight, self-control, and a |
| much more prominent role. On most | | | | willingness to accept responsibility for |
| dates, sex is openly discussed and | | | | one's actions. K. |
| talked about by both daters. There's | | | | |