| We conducted a survey among 500 men and | | | | couples enjoy from time to time as a |
| women and asked them what their favorite | | | | variation on the established pattern of |
| sexual position was. these were the | | | | sex. |
| answers we got. For men, first favorite | | | | So man on top sex remains the favorite |
| was rear entry with both partners | | | | sex position of almost everyone - |
| kneeling; second was woman on top, | | | | despite what people claim in surveys! |
| facing forwards; third was man on top; | | | | It's certainly a very satisfying |
| and fourth was side by side, facing each | | | | experience for both partners, and as I |
| other, with the partners' legs wrapped | | | | mentioned above it is indeed the sex |
| around each other. Women expressed a | | | | position which most couples use more |
| different set of preferences! Their | | | | often than any other. Why? Well, it's |
| favorites were, in order: first, woman | | | | very easy to get into, it's relaxing for |
| on top, facing the man; next, woman on | | | | the woman, who can enjoy the sense of |
| top, facing away from the man; third, | | | | her man entering her and making love, |
| spooning (which means cuddling with the | | | | there's lots of opportunity for eye |
| man behind the woman both facing the | | | | contact, plenty of bodily contact and |
| same way); fourth favorite was rear | | | | usually deep penetration, and there's |
| entry kneeling; and fifth was the man on | | | | also the romance and pleasure of |
| top position with the woman's legs | | | | kissing. For the man, there is the |
| around the man's back. | | | | satisfaction of deep penetration, |
| You'll have noticed the surprising thing | | | | powerful thrusts, and perhaps a slight |
| here is that man on top is not number | | | | sense of dominance over his partner - I |
| one on either the men's or the women's | | | | suspect this is important to many men, |
| list of preferences, yet we know that | | | | and it allows the woman in turn to enjoy |
| more couples have more sex in the man on | | | | a sense of being dominated by a loved |
| top position than any other. So why do | | | | and trusted partner. To sum this up - |
| men and women say that they prefer rear | | | | it feels good for both the man and the |
| entry, woman on top and spooning to man | | | | woman! And of course in some variations |
| on top sex positions? | | | | of the man on top position, it is |
| I think the answer is perhaps that most | | | | possible to see the most intimate |
| couples really like the man on top | | | | details of your lovemaking, so you can |
| position, but they think it might seem a | | | | enjoy seeing the most intimate |
| bit boring or conventional, so their | | | | connection between you and your partner. |
| answers to the question "Which sex | | | | For many a man, there's no better moment |
| position do you prefer?" really reflects | | | | in sex than that of pushing into his |
| the positions which they fantasize about | | | | partner in the man on top position, |
| or think are more exciting! | | | | watching her reaction as she feels the |
| But there aren't really any surprises in | | | | wonderful sensation of being so |
| the positions men say they prefer. | | | | intimately connected to her partner, of |
| Certainly, we'd all expect rear entry to | | | | being "taken" by her lover. There's a |
| be high on men's list of favorites. It's | | | | profundity to this connection which |
| a position which most men find | | | | defies words, and in my opinion man on |
| irresistible, with a very arousing view | | | | top sex fulfils some very basic and deep |
| of one's partner inviting one to make | | | | instincts for both men and women. It |
| love with abandon, in a raw, powerful, | | | | brings out the masculine in men, and the |
| masculine style. Since most men like to | | | | feminine in women - in short, it |
| see the "ins and outs" of lovemaking, so | | | | reinforces our sexual sense of self. |
| to speak, this position is very exciting | | | | Perhaps the greatest thing about man on |
| and often arouses men so much that they | | | | top is the deep connection that can |
| cannot last particularly long! This may | | | | develop between a couple. One drawback |
| make the position rather less than | | | | is that the deep penetration and pelvic |
| satisfying for women, although when a | | | | thrusts open to a man can make him reach |
| couple are enjoying rear entry sex, a | | | | his orgasm quickly, though this can be |
| woman does have the opportunity to show | | | | controlled if a couple slow down the |
| the powerful side of her sexual nature, | | | | pace of sex for a while to allow his |
| and she can make love with lust and | | | | arousal to drop. Once in a while a |
| passion. It's only likely to be | | | | couple may agree to have a quickie, a |
| unappealing for a woman if she has | | | | session of lovemaking where the man just |
| issues with her body, or she thinks her | | | | goes for his pleasure, with the |
| man will see her body at its worst when | | | | agreement and support of his partner - a |
| she's exposed to his gaze like this. (A | | | | no-frills session of lovemaking, which |
| note for women readers - your man | | | | satisfies his deep urges and allows him |
| probably cares a lot less about the | | | | to enjoy himself without the need for |
| appearance of your naked body than you | | | | much foreplay. This is a very satisfying |
| do...he's about to make love with you, | | | | thing for men, and if a couple can build |
| for one thing, and he probably isn't | | | | this into their love life, it may |
| paying much attention to the bits you | | | | encourage the man to spend time |
| find unattractive!) Another advantage of | | | | romancing and seducing his partner in |
| this position is that it makes for the | | | | the way she likes the next time they |
| deepest penetration possible, which is | | | | make love. |
| another deeply satisfying experience for | | | | Side by side positions for sex are very |
| most men. Unfortunately a rather large | | | | much about slow, romantic, gentle |
| number of women feel that the rear entry | | | | lovemaking. They allow the partners to |
| position makes them into a sex object, | | | | gaze into each other's eyes, to have |
| which in a way is understandable, since | | | | full body contact, and to enjoy the most |
| of all the sex positions, this is one | | | | intimate connection without the man |
| where men are likely to get carried away | | | | reaching his orgasm too quickly. If |
| with lust. | | | | you're not already incorporating side by |
| Woman on top is a satisfying position | | | | side sex into your lovemaking, why not |
| for both partners. The woman can control | | | | start with the basic side by side |
| the depth, speed and angle at which her | | | | position? Start making love in the man |
| man enters her, which makes her much | | | | on top position and then roll over |
| more likely to have the pleasure of an | | | | (without the man coming out of his |
| orgasm during intercourse. And of course | | | | partner), and you should be able to get |
| she can stimulate herself as she likes | | | | yourself into a relaxing position on |
| during lovemaking, which adds to the | | | | your sides. gentle lovemaking can then |
| chance of her reaching a climax during | | | | continue for as long as you like! You |
| sex. So why isn't this position as | | | | can talk, caress, rest and resume, going |
| popular as man on top? I think the | | | | on for as long as you wish, until you |
| answer lies in our preconceived roles of | | | | both reach a very satisfying orgasm. And |
| how men and women should act during sex; | | | | since either he or she can stimulate her |
| that is to say, we tend to think the man | | | | clitoris, this might even be be a |
| must lead, initiate and dominate during | | | | simultaneous orgasm - an experience well |
| sex, and the woman must be the | | | | worth seeking out, as it's more intense |
| "receiving" partner, be less assertive, | | | | than coming separately. |
| act more passively, take a more | | | | You can see much more information on all |
| "receptive" role. When a woman's on top, | | | | these sex positions, and many more, on |
| she has the chance to reverse these | | | | the excellent website Sex Techniques and |
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| roles for us to feel comfortable with it | | | | like to know how to expand your sex |
| if we were to use it all the time. Woman | | | | life! |
| on top therefore remains a treat which | | | | |